Someone posted this on Facebook with the status "It's sad how many woman would see this and cry child abuse"
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Some of this is a bit much, and some of it is totally reasonable!
but I'm just going to make sure my kid does more than I did as a child bc my parents didn't make me do ANYTHING lol.
My mom would tell me to clean my room or I'd be grounded or have stuff taken away, so I'd convince my dad to clean it for me haha
Needless to say, my husband is suffering for it now lol.
I think this list is to show what kids are capable of, not necessarily that they should be responsible for all of them. It is a great guideline for when to teach kids how to do things so they will become self sufficient adults.
There is a 16 year old that comes into our office, and his mother just taught him how to cook scrambled eggs and set his own alarm clock. It is ridiculous how much she is holding him back and not having high expectations of him. He is going to be in for a big shock when (more like IF) he moves out.
It is our job as parents to teach and guide our children to be productive members of society, and that included taking care of themselves and a home. (But not has sole responsibility for it as a kid)
I see nothing wrong with that list. It's not necessarily saying they should be doing all those chores every day but that they are capable of doing those and should. It's part of preparing our kids for the real world.
I'm going to be honest, I grew up with a housekeeper. I knew how to cook, do dishes, spot clean, do laundry, and vacuum etc. but never really learnt how to do a deep clean because I never had to. I was in for a brutal wake up call when I moved out. I plan to make sure my kids are much better prepared than I was.
Maybe my parents were just mean- I was cooking around 8 or 9 ( with supervision)... used a vacuum younger then that and I helped my dad around the house doing small fixes. My parents needed the help and I had two feet and a heart beat. I was quite capable of helping out and by 15 I was cooking, cleaning, responsible for my own laundry, taking my siblings to school AND I helped my dad build an addition on our house. I still played sports, rode my bike, went out with friends and enjoyed my childhood.
I don't expect my kids to maintain a house or run a household at 12 but I think its important for children to learn skills to prepare them for adulthood. It sure helped me!
By 12 I was going this plus more weekly. I didn't get much of a childhood except when I was at my grandmother's or aunts house during the summer. I plan to let my kids be kids. They will learn responsibility, but there will be exceptions etc. Kids didn't choose to be born to clean what's yours. I bought the house I'll keep it clean. They take care of their things and I'll take care of the rest.
I think this is more of a guideline of things that kids should be able to do at that age, not things that should be their sole responsibility. I did all these things by the ages indicated, and as an adult I thank my mother for it, because I learned as I grew up and maintaining a household on my own wasn't a huge shock.
My 3 almost 4 year old does everything on the 2-3 year old list. I think set the table is meant to be with kid plates and silver wear and those kid tables. My son loves to vacuum and is slowly starting to learn how to cook. He likes to help out in the kitchen a lot. I like this list a lot. It teaches them responsibility.
I did all of those at 12 at least.
It's not saying kids have to do all of them every day but that those are SOME thing a child that age can do.
I am the oldest of 4 and both my parents worked full time. My mom didn't have time or energy to do everything herself. Us kids made more than enough mess to be responsible to help clean everything.
My three year old brother who has down syndrome does all of the things on the 2-3 year list. My mom just wants his abilities in life skills to be strong so that when she's gone he could take care of himself. I see nothing wrong with the list. Is it for everyone? Absolutely not, but I feel its good for kids who maybe need more things to occupy their time. My brother for example, will act out more often when he's bored, so we give him things to help out with. His physical and speech therapists agreed that it would improve his relations with others and his speech, it has helped!