I think you're having an identity crisis because you're real identity is a mom with lip piercings and you're a mom without lip piercings lmao. Just get them done ! I'm also 20 due with my second this July :) . I don't have any tattoos or piercings(besides ears) because I'm broke and also can never trust myself to make a decision ill actually enjoy later but you had them and liked them so get them !
I think facial piercings are awesome, but I do feel once your a mom it's best to let these things go. In saying that, I only have my nose pierced and I got it after my dd was born as I went through a quarter life crisis and thought I was old and I freaked out lol.
You look gorgeous and motherly in your now pic! You looked gorgeous in the other pic too just not sure what kiddies would think! Haha. Also they might pull them =\ my 2.5 year has taken to pulling my nose ring.
Do what you want to. You should look how you like and not care what other people think.
I dye my hair red and refuse to change it. After baby is born I plan on getting snake bites and dyeing my hair purple with pink tips. I also intend to add to my tattoos and get a half sleeve and more.
I also still dress in whatever the heck I feel like. I don't let any body make me feel like I'm a bad mum because I don't dress like some stepford wife. I will never look mumsy and practical. It's not a look I like on myself. Be you and don't worry about other peoples opinions.
My son thinks my hair/tattoos/clothes etc are cool. His opinion matters to me way more than any judgemental strangers.
Ya know right before I gave birth to my son 3 years ago I went through the same kinda thing...where I wanted to have more of the "mom look" because i've always had piercings and dyed hair. so I dyed my hair and took my gauges down to a much smaller size because they were an inch.... but after I had him I realized ive always been the way I am and i love the extra accessories I choose to have (: So , I put everything back in. (except I left my gauges small) on my face I had/have septum ,nose and lip & i've had them all since I was 15 and I know i'm the best mommy I can be.
Piercing , hair dye & tattoos DOESN'T make someone a bad parent no matter what others may think or say. If it's what YOU want get it girl! (: You can always take it out again if you want to or need to.
Thank you for all your opinions :)
You are all so sweet! The complements are embarrassing me haha I didn't expect that.
I'm far from the teen years (k not that far but it feels like it lol 25), and I have snake bites, nose pierced on both sides, ears stretched to a 00, and two tongue piercings that are visible. If anyone says I'm a bad mom because of them (other than my brother really because he just likes giving me a hard time as he always has), they have no idea who I am as a person and I wouldn't give them the opportunity to find out either. Be who you are and don't worry about what others have to say because if you aren't true to yourself, you will not be as happy as you truly could be... Even with the littler things in life.
@kiki thank you! I do like my new hair color a lot :)
and I try not to care what people think, but I just never wanted to be the "stereotypical teen mom" and I know that I'm a great mom, so I shouldn't worry so much.
Thanks ladies for all of your comments :)
I really want to get it re-done
Get them re pierced. It's sounds like you really like them and miss them.
If someone thinks piercings make a person trashy, they need a dictionary and a reality check.
And also, don't spend life worrying about what others think about the things that make you happy!! I used to live that way and it SUCKS
I'm going to go ahead and be honest like you asked. First off, I think you look fine either way so there. But, if you are worried about being judged, the reality is that you will be. Is it right? No. Is it fair? No. But it happens. I used to run a large playgroup and we had a handful of "alternative" moms (ones with unnatural haircolors, piercings, a lot of tattoos) and while I personally couldn't care less more than half the group of moms had an issue with them for no other reason than their appearance. One woman told me she didn't want get children playing with a heavily tattooed mom's child and several women referred to a mom with a lot of piercings and unnatural hair as "scary." While I think it's terrible to judge and I disagree with it (and I actually kicked people out of the playgroup for being disrespectful and discriminatory) the fact is, it happens. I'm smart enough and open-minded enough to know that you can't look at a women and tell what type of mom she is. For the record, the scary mom was a much better parent and had a much more advanced and well-behaved child than some of the perfectly manicured perfectly dressed prim and proper moms. Sorry for the novel.