Omg I'm sorry momma but yes newborns are terrifying!!! I was scared to even hold mine!!!

She'll get over it

My daughter's birthday is November 1st. My dad refused to hold her until her first Christmas so she was almost 2 months old. It's not that he didn't like her, he was just terrified of hurting her. He was a really big guy with huge hands and she was tiny (5 pounds 10 1/2 oz at birth). I think that's a pretty common fear.

My dad doesn't even like holding his own kids as new borns. He didn't hold my daughter for the longest time. I wasn't offended or hurt. Some people don't like kids and some people are afraid of little kids. That's just life. The fact that you did all that for her proves you care of her baby. She's just being petty.

I agree - plus you can see them better when someone else is holding them!

Lanna that's exactly how we are! DH wants to hold allll the babies all the time and I'm like I'll just admire from a distance until they're a little older ?

I have 3 children, my husband and I went to a naming ceremony recently, the baby was a week old and teeny tiny! They kept trying to get me to hold the baby, but I was waaaay too scared to hold him! He was so tiny and I was so scared I would drop him, so I just watched my husband hold him, and I admired the little guy from a small distance. There's nothing wrong with that. If you don't feel comfortable and are worried,then it's best you don't hold baby anyway ?

I don't like holding other people's babies. I would rather just look at them. I'll hold my 2 all day long though.

I've had 4 and I don't hold anyone else's newborns lol. They're so fragile; I'd rather not. My SO LOVES holding brand new babies though. Different strokes for different folks. She sounds beyond dramatic especially considering how much you have done for her.

I'm the opposite, I like other people's kids and not mine ? ok that's a total lie lol but I love newborns, I love mine and everybody else's ?? snuggling a newborn is my favorite, but when other people's kids get over 8 months old, I like them a LOT LESS ?

I was also terrified to hold newborns until my son was born. When you have your own child, everything changes.

Thank ladies! ☺️

Solidarity momma ✊?

I only have interest in a few ppls kids outside of my own.

This reminds me of the Taco Bell commercial. "Hold my baby dude"

Sorry. Anyways. I was a little offended when my best friend was so excited to meet our son and when we finally met up she refused to hold him. I now understand she is also just terrified of hurting them when they're that small. Even before I knew that I would have never made a big deal about it. It sounds like she has some stress and anger built up and she let it out on your DH. Hope it doesn't continue on and last longer than needed.

I'm not so much the same way but I can completely understand. I do get scared on holding somebody else's baby. My husband on the other hand is the exact same way, his sisters baby girl is I believe 10 months... He's still so scared to hold her. When he does she's all the way up on his knee so far from his body LOL and it only lasted maybe 3-4 minutes. She totally does NOT need to get all butt hurt... And that does NOT mean you'll be a bad mother, it's called being CAUTIOUS. She needs to get over herself

My husband is the same way. Won't hold babies. They scare the crap out of him. However he was and still is a kick ass dad to our kiddos. He has the same mentality. Tell your SIL she can kick rocks

I'm not into newborns either. To be completely honest, I really start to enjoy babies when they can sit up on their own and have a little bit of independence.

Op you are going to be a great mom, I am just like you, don't like new borns or want to hold them, they terrified me too ?

But I gave birth to my ds 19 months ago and it was pure love at first site, wouldn't put him down lol, only person who I'd let hold him was my husband, anyone else it was pretty much tough luck, go have your own baby ?

lol, ya you'll be great op, those mama instincts are crazy and will take over.

Ps even after having my son I still don't like newborn baby's and still won't hold my new born nephew (he's 3 weeks old)

You are going to be amazing op, nothing wrong with you..

*hugs* and congratulations ❤️️

Yeah, I'm annoyed by it and her implications were hurtful no matter how untrue, but I don't feel any shame in my feelings. I've felt like this my entire life. I mean, I'm not having a baby just to have a baby... my husband and I decided we want to raise a family. He's only going to be a baby for a very short time. Plus, I personally don't want people passing my kid around like he's an object ?

She's just very self-absorbed. She's always been that way, but getting pregnant and giving birth has brought it to an entirely new level.

I'm the same way. I'll look and comment how cute the baby is but im not a big fan of holding other people's kids. Shoot im not a fan of anyone elses kids but my own. No shame in that. She needs to get over it. For how much you've helped her you obviously care for the baby. I would say just say what you posted. Ive had two kids and holding newborns still freaks me out a little. I have this horrible fear that ill drop them. Never have but the uneasy feeling is still there. I like babies around 6mo. Able to hold up there own head and can play with them on the floor. I didnt hold my sisters baby till around 4mo. She never took offence to it because she feels the same way. Hopfully she will get over it. Doesn't make you a bad mom. If it does then ill be a bad mom with you... Totally kidding but you get my point. Just hold him next time while sitting that way theres no worries on your end and Hopfully that will get her off your back. Or just let her get over it.