I'm going thru the same exact thing. Mine don't come home until sometimes the next morning, and thinks it's fine when we have a six month old.

I'm feeling the exact same way selfish as hell smh

@leslyev92, my mom would help big time. My plans are to move with her. Start going to school to get a career going. Work part time & get my license & a car to get back n forth even tho my mom will take me anywhere.. so I do have a plan set. But I need a back up

@queenmommy1, well I’m sure that you would have your moms help, I know starting over sucks especially getting a job pregnant but you need to think long term.

@leslyev92, yes I kno but he likes to spend all the money so I can’t even save if I tried. He finds it when I hide it.. right now my only plan is to move back to my moms but it’s 2 hours away in ohio.. I told him there needs to be a plan b but he isn’t thinking about it..

Well then you need $ to be able to live with your little ones somewhere after September. Since you guys split, unless you guys are gonna keep living together.. idk just what I’m seeing from my point of view. Always look for your best interest with your daughters, you need to be at peace and not worried about this boy!

@leslyev92, we are split .. & I’m not gonna take him for child support only because if I need money he will give it to me because I’ve always done that for him & I pay his phone bill... (it’s cheaper to keep him on my phone plan) I wish we were married but we’re not .. & no I don’t live near any family.. I’ve been living with him & him family for 4 years... so I only ever had him..

Hey mama keep in mind if you guys do split up, he will be forced to pay child support, helping you with the financial aspect of things. Also, if you guys are married (wasn’t sure by your post) but if you are alimony is a great help. No family that could help while you figure it all out ?

@the.real.og, oh no I work no where near 40 hours a week. I work in a restaurant/bar... I’m just a hostess. It’s just something for now.. I work in between the hours my kids are in daycare with time to get home before they do because I have to ride the city bus. I used to make more before I got pregnant but then my body couldn’t handle it .

@the.real.og, I only make $8 an hour.. my job doesn’t open till 11am. So I work 10:45am-3pm everyday ... but since I’m pregnant I have my appointments off , then I have days where I need off for court & everything else. I also have weekends off. So I only bring in $400 a month. I just paid every 2 weeks.. my check today was only $167. My check 2 weeks ago was exactly $103.. I have weekends off cuz of no daycare...

@lana30319, no none of my family lives here which is why I need to be able to move...

I can totally relate to needing the other persons money to be able to survive. And lessen the financial burden. But how can he just sit back n not do shit! What kind of man do that! You really don't need to stress yourself with another baby on the way. And so young. Do you have like a brother or close relative that can move in and help financially? That way you can kick his butt to the curve! Cause with mine he know I don't have anywhere to go and need his help. And take advantage of that. Men can be big dicks!

I also don’t kno what this has to do with money or anything.. I just miss having help with my kids when he helped make them

@mhbbb2, I already get food stamps. & I don’t qualify for housing because of a false eviction on my record..

Government assistance.

@lana30319, I’ve tried that. I didn’t sit her there but I told him that one of the twins had a shitty diaper. I ended up changing her.. he’s just not here long enough.. he’s asleep in the morning before they leave on the bus.. then he leaves before they get home... we both work the same schedule while the kids are in daycare... but I don’t get to leave the house unless I’m at work. & I’m not even happy there. I don’t make enough money. I make $400 a month . Without his job, I’m screwed. I ride busses to work so I have to pick a job on the bus line that wants to hire a pregnant girl. That’s rare

Well damn! He has to be in a relationship just to take care of his kids! BS! How do he live under the same roof and not want to spend time with the kids he help make. Shit girl me personally I start drama. I would wait till one of the kids have a shity diaper. When he is home and sit the baby rite on his lap!

lYou do need a vacation. You deserve it.

He don’t give me enough time to leave ! As soon as he walks in the door , he leaves !’ & he will just call his mom or any of his family members & ask them to watch all the kids

Men get on my freaking nerves!!! If I was you one day that he is home I’d say watch the kids and then leave don’t even tell him where you’re going because he don’t need to know you’re not together anymore he done ruined that he don’t get to know anymore because it’s none of his business

He doesn’t have anywhere to go either

@n_favors, we have until September in this house. I have court for my oldest cuz she has a different dad. The only

Place I have to go is 2 hours away in another state... but I can’t move unless I ask the judge... & if he or she says no , I’ll be homeless with a 4 year old 2 year d twins & a newborn !

I'm sorry u going through that. How much longer r y'all gone live together

Ugh. 😭😭😭 what is wrong with men!!!!!!