BABY SHOWER DRAMA !!! Ugh I’m so irritated. My mom is having me a baby shower for our side and SO is…
BABY SHOWER DRAMA !!!
Ugh I’m so irritated. My mom is having me a baby shower for our side and SO is having one for their side of the family.
I’m not talking to 2 of my brothers. Don’t want to and don’t plan to. I’ve been telling my mom for 2 MONTHS that I don’t want them at the damn baby shower.
One of them was messing with this girl(3-4yrs ago) we got close to her, he got back with his ex. Tbh they weren’t really anything besides fwb lol but me and her remained close friends. He didn’t mind. Long story short, I invited her to the baby shower and my mom is losing her shit. She keeps mentioning my brothers and I’m telling her if I see them there I will cause a scene and tell them to leave or I’ll leave my own damn baby shower. Idk why she just can’t respect my wishes. Besides, my SO isn’t even invited to that baby shower! How do you think that makes me feel? How the fuck am I supposed to “uninvite” my friend? She’s offering to buy the cake and some goodies my mom is totally ignoring her. She’s also buying my car seat and stroller🙄
My mom acts totally fake lol talking to her acting like everything is fine when she’s saying all this shit behind closed doors.
Honestly I just feel like telling her to not throw me my baby shower.
We got into it a couple of weeks back because she was drinking. I HATE and can’t stand being around her cause she gets buzz balls lol.
She started bashing my SO and I just walked out on her. She loves to talk shit when she drinks and that’s the only time she ever wants to sit down with me and actually have a conversation. Pathetic. She had asked me dumb questions about him, knowing damn well why he’s not coming around her is because that’s what the fuck she wanted and says repeatedly. She pretty much made it sound like she’s disappointed in me for being pregnant with his child and that I’m an embarrassment is what she told me. So why even celebrate my daughter?
I feel selfish about it but am I wrong to be upset? What does she expect me to do? I’m really considering to call the baby shower off😭
Since she doesn’t want to be around my bf ever again or say a word to him. I don’t know how she expects to come visit when our daughter gets here. She’s not going to have her own time with her without him there. That’s his daughter.
Mariah·
@fuhgeddaboudit, exactly. I don’t even want her to have me one on our side anymore. I don’t want to have to deal with anyone asking where my boyfriend is and have to lie about it.
Gabby·
I would just take your SO and friend to the baby shower. If your mom freaks out let the whole family know how crazy she is. It's your baby shower. Don't let her control you.
Sorcha·
I'd do the same as Gabby.pineda. I'd invite who I want and my SO would be there as well. If she has a problem she can leave. I'd message my brothers personally and say that "I'm inviting who I want to my shower. If you have a problem, you can leave. Your ex will be here and my friends. " if they show great. I'd at least have my friends there to show them out if they get too much. If you mom has a problem with your shower be sure to invite people you want to be your supports.
And maybe hide the booze so she doesn't get into drinking.
passion·
Мама сына (2 года)
That’s a lot to deal w while pregnant ! Do what makes you happy. You can’t get this time back. This is about celebrating your new family. You should be able to invite who u want
Kristi P·
Yeahh no.. this is why I will not have anyone plan the baby shower but my SO and I. We're the ones having the baby, not other people. I can't stand family drama either.
To be honest, I wouldn't even go. If you can't celebrate with the same person who helped created your baby, then why bother? You will only be upset the entire time because he isn't having fun like you. Since she also wants to invite people you never talk to anymore, it's like she just wants drama anyways.
Y'all really don't need two baby showers either. Everyone is an adult. They can all get along for a couple of hours.
Mariah·
@iowajeepdiesel, that’s what I’ve been telling both sides of the family but they think mine is the type to cause a scene. We’re not. But it’s sad that neither really like each other so that’s why we were gonna have 2. I text my mom this morning to forget it I don’t want her to have me one because she’s making everything so complicated and I’m still hurt over what she had told me 2 weeks ago. Lol she replied that she’s gonna stay away from me and good luck and she wishes me well, how sad😂
Kristi P·
@jmz.mariah, wow I'm sorry your Mom is so childish. That's just like my Mom. I'm only glad I live 12 hours away from her 😂
Your SO's family is most likely talking about your mother... hope it gets better for ya.
Blueberry ·
@jmz.mariah, just plan your own shower that way you have full control over who is invited and who isn’t. You’ll be able to keep your stress level to a minimum.