I am a gestational carrier in California! This is my second time around (one boy in may). So happy for you and heck yes! Do it!!

Having to switch schools is really difficult, you would be surprised how different curriculum can be from state to state I live in CA and even our best schools are total crap compared to other states. We are planning to move before our kids start school.

As a 3x surrogate myself, I wouldn't do it. It is very important to put your family first. Always.

That's what drives me to want to do it .

My aunt and uncle are in their late 30's and had finally got pregnant through IVF... the baby was stillborn at 37 weeks and it was so hard to watch them lose the baby they wanted so desperately.

I love babies and I am for sure done having any of my own. Thank you for your insight ☺ I really do appreciate it .

Might seem crazy but I like being pregnant. But I'm not ready to bring another baby of my own home. I was thinking about it for a long time before actually pursuing it. My main reason is because I know someone that was really hard for her get pregnant so I really want to give someone what they desperately want and need.

The pay is a bonus to me and I get to save whatever I get from it and put it as a down payment on a house. Also pay off most if not all of my debt.

I think what you are doing is so beautiful and selfless . I'm just curious and please don't take this the wrong way because I'm genuinely curious because it's something I've considered for my uncle and his wife .

What is making you want to do this ? Is it the financial benefit or is it because you genuinely just want to bless someone with a baby?

Awesome!! Thank you!!! ?❤

ETA, he will be 8 next week

How old is your child? Pasadena unified and Glendale unified are pretty decent school district but you would have to make sure to move close to the school you want (because not all the schools are great).

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That website can give you an idea as to how the schools "grade"

You're welcome ❤ I'm sure you'll make the right decision for you and your family. Take your time and it'll come to you ?

Lovely way in putting it. Thank you! ?

I would look at it as a once in a lifetime opportunity. You get to choose wherever you want to go,food,bills and accommodation paid for...It's only 20 weeks. And at the end of it,you get to do something you've always wanted to do,and give this couple what they've always wanted ❤ Aslong as he's attending school, I really don't see what the problem is ?

@mummy, that's what my aunts said. Lol

Everything would be okay financially and job wise.

I talked with my son last night about the situation and of course he's excited and all for it but it's not up to him in the end.

@storm, I didn't think of that.. I'll ask and see if they accept traditional surrogates.

@a, we own our businesses so the work will be here when we get back. Dh family said they will look after it and the remodeling company, dh has a manager that knows everything so he will probably give him a raise for a little bit more work and responsibility.

That's what I was about also but dh discussed it and believe everything will be alright.

I wouldn't be able to do it. Your doing this out of the kindness of your heart, but this would affect your family and especially your child. I don't think that's entirely fair.

If they're supplying all of that,and you really want to do this for them,then I would go for it. It would be a great opportunity to save money,and also like a mini holiday...

I don't think I'd be able to move my entire family and my entire life. What about jobs? You're very sweet for wanting to this. You are more kind than I would because I'd probably not even consider it.

They live in Spain. I can't give birth to an egg donor and a sperm donor in my state.

I also wouldn't be allowed to give birth to a baby with a same sex couple in Oklahoma. Our laws here are strict and out of date tbh lol.

They will come here and are paying for everything during and after the move, from food to gas and toiletries.

Could they use your eggs and donor sperm instead to avoid a move and using two donors?

Realistically they should cater to you And move or come to you every chance they get not the other way around. I know a girl that has don't it a few times and the bio parents always come to her and pay for medical and anything else. She even did it for a couple from France and they would fly to her.

The longer it sits on my mind the more anxious I get.

This is only if it results to a pregnancy that far.

Part of me really wants to give them their precious rainbow baby but another part of me is just my sons schooling and switching doctors. We have no other issues with moving.

But, they are still discussing it with the ips and our lawyers and that might be a move that my ips and their lawyer aren't willing to take. So it's not a for sure thing yet. ?

I wouldn't uproot my family and my children for anyone other than family.

I couldn't imagine doing all of that for anyone other than family

@baby, he would be coming.

I love my ips and I couldn't imagine not being their surrogate.

I feel like they're family so I don't want to back out. Dh is supportive and my aunts will come once a month to come visit if it does move toward temporarily moving.

I think it's very nice of you to have a baby for someone, but to completely move your family I think is to much.

Bubbly, I think that's what I'm going to end up doing.

Pp, they are pretty nice places and it's really close to my agency. I feel like I would feel better if I were close to them.

No way. I'm a 2x surro and I would never uproot my life for surrogacy. Would your DH be coming? There are so many things that could go wrong and you would need support.

I think the best solution would be for your IPs to find a surrogate in a different state and for you to find different IPs. Surrogacy is great but I wouldn't let it affect my life anymore than it does on its own.

I don't know about the schools, but both of those cities are really nice.

They said I could choose the area.. is Pasadena or Glendale pretty good?

That's the area we are most familiar with.

Is homeschooling an option for you?