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Ashley Moore
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Feeling alone now that baby is here. My SO was extremely supportive during my pregnancy but now that baby is here I feel…

Feeling alone now that baby is here. My SO was extremely supportive during my pregnancy but now that baby is here I feel alone. He's off work with me but always finds way to leave the house, doesn't help much at night (we have a night owl), during day he lacks patience. Soon as baby cries he puts him down and show frustration. Remind him he suffers from gas so he cries a lot especially after feeding. He'll sit in another room and have left us sleeping on couch. Takes nice long showers and eats his meals in peace. I find myself crying at random times and wish I had more help (first time mom). Sorry I just needed to vent. Thank you!

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del_1548166534_sarahbethk

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@faith928, yes you do babe! Get your brows waxed, hair and nails done, freshen up!! I’ll do that again too someday 😂

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faith928

Ashley MooreМама сына-младенца

@sarahbethk Yup smart thinking. He can sleep a good 2-3 hours at a time during day, I'll go soon as he falls. I look a hot mess and deserve nails or hair done.

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faith928

Ashley MooreМама сына-младенца

@ashrod23 That's what I'm ready to do but don't want to sound like a nag.

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del_1548166534_sarahbethk

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@faith928, hahaha I totally understand. I heard phantom crying all the time! My second was really colicky. Try to leave him with baby at first when he’s sleeping or calm. When you go out without baby just make sure he has diapers, bottle, etc set up so you have peace of mind, and check in occasionally!

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ashrod23

Ash RodМама сына-младенца

That was me and my bf for 2 months after my son was born . I’m a first time mom too and the first couple of months I just cried because I felt like no one was helping me. I had to rush to shower to eat I barely slept I was a mess while my bf just stood by sucked his teeth and complained all the time . It took me have a serious ass talk with my bf for him to realize he had to step it up !

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faith928

Ashley MooreМама сына-младенца

@sarahbethk Thank you!!! I just get nervous leaving baby with him. Don't want him leaving him crying or something. I've never taken a shower so fast in my life before. Thank you for the advice. Tomorrow I'll take myself out. Haven't been outside in a while.

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del_1548166534_sarahbethk

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Having a baby is such a tough transition for everyone and I had a lot of resentment toward my husband because my life turned a 180 and his barely changed. Don’t be afraid to tell him when you need something, and if all else fails he needs some tough love. Leave him with baby and go take a shower or take a breather upstairs for a bit. Don’t ask, just do- he’s the parent too. He needs to adjust too mama, sometimes men just need a wake up call! I went through this with my husband and honestly until we had baby #2 I did everything on my own. He had to get better with the second around, but I made it way too easy on him with our first. Hang in there!

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faith928

Ashley MooreМама сына-младенца

@ladyblauvelt.skysmomma Exactly!!!! When I went back in hospital after C-section, my mom said he was here helping. Now I'm back home trying to recover from two surgeries and he's slacking. Of course as a mother, we'll definitely be there for our child. I just don't like how he ignores him or if he cries for like 2 mins he's being mean to him and placing him down. Not seeing or figuring out what's wrong

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ladyblauvelt

Allyson AlmedaМама сына (2 года), беременна (31 нед.)

Unfortunately a lot of men just don't know how to handle it... It's rare to find a man who helps and does just as much. They think they can do as they please because they know we will always be there to take care of everything because as a mom that's just what we do. It's very frustrating.

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Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday…

Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?

My boyfriend hasn’t changed ONE diaper ever and my son is 9 months old. He hasn’t fed him in about 5 months, he doesn’t…

My boyfriend hasn’t changed ONE diaper ever and my son is 9 months old. He hasn’t fed him in about 5 months, he doesn’t bath him and hes never been left alone with him and he doesn’t even wake up during the night to help with him. He MAYBE washes the bottles at night if it’s a good day and I’m confused as to how bc I’m a woman IM supposed to do all that by myself?? lmfao ya no.

Mamas I really need some advice or just a listening ear, I really don't know what to do, or if I'm overreacting, but my…

Mamas I really need some advice or just a listening ear, I really don't know what to do, or if I'm overreacting, but my baby's father and I are together, when we met and I got pregnant he was here working, he went back to work out of town after I found out I was pregnant and only comes back once a month, he supports me financially, which was mostly his choice bc he makes good money, we are doing fine on money.. but I'm almost 31 weeks and as I get closer I'm really worried about raising my daughter on my own, he plans to continue to come back only once a month even when she is born and it really scares me, even though I know we will need the money since I won't be working, I still feel like I'm going to be alone raising our daughter, when we talk about it all he has to say is he doesn't see any other way, but he's never lived here, let alone had a job here, and I know of so many places where he could get a job easily when he's here for one of his monthly visits and he just keeps saying that he can't quit his job and move here without having a stable job, and I keep telling him he can,find a job before he quits this one, but yet he's not even trying to find a job when he's here, he hasnt researched job openings or called anywhere, sometimes I feel like he's just comfortable with what is happening and it really hurts me to think about my daughter not having him here, and raising her alone, for one he's never been around a baby, doesnt have a clue how to raise one, and has never even HELD a baby, so I feel like if he only comes back once a month then he's never going to learn how to help with her, let alone know her, and her recognize him when he is here... every time we talk about it, it just turns into an argument and I'm to the point where I feel like I'm wasting my breathe... I just really don't know what to do, I'm scared, and need help and I feel like he doesn't wanna risk anything by moving here when I really need him. am I overreacting??? btw don't get me wrong, I'm beyond grateful for him, with everything he does, and all the financial support he provides, but I've never been "taken care of" (for lack of better words) and I would rather work too, just to have him here to help me and be with his daughter and sometimes I feel like that's not an option to him... it's really depressing me and scaring me. don't be afraid to tell me if I sound like a spoiled bitch or something, I honestly need yalls HONEST OPINION. 😞