Any mamas up here married? How long have you been married and what’s your best piece of advice you can give me?

🙋🏼‍♀️ 16 years

Most things you think are BIG potatoes. Are really very small potatoes. Let it go.

Haha. Don't.

Kidding. Sort of. Married 5. Disputes are normal, but if you aren't seeing eye to eye & sometimes, you won't, don't waste your breath, just walk away. No point in bickering back and forth.

@newmock, wow that is amazing thank you so much 😊

We will be married a year on Friday. Don’t go to bed upset. I won’t even get in bed without my husband, I’ll even sleep on the couch until we can get in bed together haha. We also have a safe word.. when we can feel a unnecessary argument arising we have this silly word we say that makes us both laugh and we drop everything right then.

Married 8 together 12.

Pick your battles and don’t nag.

@tyshaijames2018, ur welcome

@tracymarie, thank you that’s great advice

14 years together and 7 years of marriage. Best advice is to Communicate. Communication is the most important.

@lareina_kk, yeah it does but I’m not gonna ponder on those thoughts. Thanks 😘

@tyshaijames2018 i have to be honest with u girl. Im not saying it will happen to you but it happens. Best wishes to you❤❤❤

@lareina_kk, oh lord well thank you anyway

Married 9 years....sex and communication. But you can be perfect and have the best marriage and the other person still cheats😕

@thegermanmommy, thanks girl

Married 8 years.

Talk about your finances!

I’ve been married for almost 8 years and most of the ladies said it all especially dinobutt and the sex topic lol. I will say always take time out of the day to talk no matter how busy one is. Even if you have to wait at night for him to come home from work. Stay connected. ❤️

@tyshaijames2018 I've been married for almost 4 years. My best piece of advice is to remember that no matter how hard it gets you both are on the same team & the goal is to make it through everything together. Best wishes mama! ❤❤❤

Married for 3 years but together for 5 years. Compromise, trust and respect. My husband and I have over come some serious hurtles but he has stuck with me through them all. It isn't always easy but at the end of the day it is all worth it.

@blakeslatinmama, thanks

@applesandbananas134, thank u ❤️

@sherrynygirl, shit he better lol

@tyshaijames2018 1 more thing my man used to be a Mama's boy..no more ! Hahah now he listens to Me 👑

Oh and keep the lines of communication open. Talk often even if you feel unsure or like it's stupid. Your partner will appreciate that. And let them know how special and loved they are. Little gestures are everything

@applesandbananas134, thank you so much 😍

I've been married to the most wonderful woman for 2 years now. I agree with @tinysmom0116 never go to bed upset with each other. Also, you have to be a good listener and put yourself in their shoes often. Being married is about pleasing your partner. Another thing, being right is not that important.

@murphaayyyy, thank you 😍

Married 14 years. Most important thing is communication and trust

@dinobutt, that’s awesome advice thanks sweetie

Communication- talk about EVERYTHING. Don’t keep secrets or tell white lies.

Unity- y’all are a team. Backup in public, correct in private.

Individuality- it’s so important to stay true to who you are and not just morph into wife & mom. Your SO fell in love with YOU.

Balance- no one person should be carrying too much weight on their shoulders. Marriage is not 50/50, it is 100/100.

Arguments- always stay tactful!! No low blows. No motherfucking each other. Never go to bed angry. And PICK YOUR BATTLES. Not everything is worth a fight.

Sex- stay open to new ideas and keep communication open on this subject.

Little things- never, ever stop doing the little things.

@martcas1989, thank you I appreciate it

@sherrynygirl, thanks boo

@kenoiyawe, I’m about to follow you ok

17 yrs together... Patience.Trust.Romance the saying is true happy wife happy life.not perfect but..life happens....

@tyshaijames2018 it worked for us we wasn't getting along for shit at first lol and no problem boo 😘

10 years I would def. say pick your battles and most importantly communication don’t ever go to bed mad.

@kenoiyawe, that listen to understand and not just to respond! Girl you gave me life with that lol 😂😍😘

@kelsey19, yes communication is definitely the key! Thank you 😘😘

I’ll be married for 3 years this June. Since it hasn’t been that long I feel weird giving marriage advice, but I would say communication is key. When your life is so intertwined with someone else’s I think it’s important to talk about everything.

@kenoiyawe, thank you so much ❤️

Yea keep all business between y'all and listen to understand not just to respond..... Never go to sleep angry work it out.... Never give up on each other and put each other above all.....o yea married 4 years in December and it's amazing my best friend indeed

Haha. Don't.

Kidding. Sort of. Married 5. Disputes are normal, but if you aren't seeing eye to eye & sometimes, you won't, don't waste your breath, just walk away. No point in bickering back and forth.

@tinysmom0116, oh hell no we don’t even do that now lol our business is our business! That’s awesome advice. Thanks girl 💕

@squishymommy1, thank you so much ❤️

Been married for 3 years, together for 8. My best advice I think is to keep your problems private, and not go to sleep angry. For example:

You get mad for whatever reason, don't go telling your mom, sister, in laws, and best friend about it. Let some time pass and you and hubby will forgive and forget. Those people you tell don't have to forgive or forget and they will remember.

🙋🏼‍♀️ 16 years

Most things you think are BIG potatoes. Are really very small potatoes. Let it go.