I’m starting to get really irritated with this and I don’t know what do to do. I’m hoping someone has some advice... My…
I’m starting to get really irritated with this and I don’t know what do to do. I’m hoping someone has some advice...
My mother watches my son for me and never tells me no. I’ve been noticing though when I come and get him she says she changed his diaper and there is no way. His diaper will be just saturated with pee like he hasn’t been changed. She sometimes has him for multiple hours.
Our relationship isn’t the best and isn’t the worst. But whenever I try to advocate for myself or my son she becomes highly defensive and doesn’t listen to me. It never goes anywhere. I don’t want her to feel like I’m taking him from her but I also don’t want to worry that his basic needs aren’t being met. He doesn’t cry when his diaper is wet, I change him every two hours unless he sleeps for three at night.
I know she’s feeding him but this diaper situation is really starting to get to me. How do I approach her? Ive contemplated setting alarms on her cell phone to change him, but I don’t want to over step my place as a daughter, but now I’m also a mother. Has anyone else had a similar situation? How did you handle it?
kammy·
Мама сына (1 год)
Phone alarm seems reasonable for sure lol.
Katlin Burton·
Мама сына-младенца
@kambam, right! I might do the phone alarms. She HATES checklists. I’ve tried that route in the past with other stuff 😂
Katlin Burton·
Мама сына-младенца
@babeylarissa, I guess because our communication is poor I’m more looking for a way to tell her if that makes sense.
Kenya Larissa D. 🎀·
Мама дочки (1 год)
i feel like u should just tell her. if she gets mad then thats stupid! ur a mother now, u gotta worry about ur son not ur mothers feelings or anybody else's especially if they take care of him!
kammy·
Мама сына (1 год)
Its possible. Maybe she needs some phone alarms or notes to check off. My mom forgets sometimes and it just irritates me. you can clearly see when a diaper is full 😂
Katlin Burton·
Мама сына-младенца
@kambam, it’s such a tricky situation. She does great when I’m near by or just running a quick errand. I really think she forgets to change him sense he doesn’t cry or smell.
Katlin Burton·
Мама сына-младенца
@floralfairy, it’s okay! Baby brain is real! No need to apologize. I also live with her. She does great when I’m here, but I’m here to control the situation for lack of better words. I just was talking with her and I told her how I was trying to diligent with changing him every two hours because he is peeing so much more. I’m hoping it kinda planted a seed in her brain. We will see. I also think the next time I leave him with her I’m going to mark his diaper so that if she doesn’t change it , I’ll be 100% sure and then I can bring it up to her and direct it towards specificity when she has him.
kammy·
Мама сына (1 год)
All I can say is, if ANYONE is defensive about YOUR parenting and YOUR child, red flag. Fired. Bye.
My mom does the same shit and I don't trust her
Katlin Burton·
Мама сына-младенца
@floralfairy, the feeling that’s she’s being attacked is hard to avoid. A lot of times if anyone brings anything up she feels attacked. She can be very sensitive. I also am a lot like my father and not harsh with how I talk to others but I’m very “matter of fact” or black and white when I talk. I don’t want her to interpret my tone as more than just a request and I’m not sure how to do that. I can try to gently remind her maybe that my son doesn’t cry when he’s wet and to check his diaper every two hours. I feel like I have tried that in the past and it didn’t work, but it would of been the way I presented it.