Am I in the wrong here? I was cleaning and my son was playing either with the vacuum or on the porch. No big deal. I was…
Am I in the wrong here?
I was cleaning and my son was playing either with the vacuum or on the porch. No big deal. I was watching him. Well she tried taking him to go upstairs. I told her to leave him downstairs. Well of course he heard upstairs and wanted to go and started crying. I kept cleaning and I noticed she was helping him over the gate upstairs so I went and grabbed him and brought him to the room to get ready. Of course he starts crying and and as I was passing her she stated "don't take your anger out on the kid. Don't worry baby grandma loves you". My husband doesn't understand why I'm mad as I let him go upstairs with her before. He thinks I'm making a big deal out of nothing. And maybe I am but I don't like being undermined.
First off I am not angry nor am I taking anything out on him. I was going to leave anyway as I was almost done and I didn't want him up there. All he does is watch cartoons and it's nice outside. I don't want him watching them.
Second I don't need a reasoning why I don't want him to do something as I am his parent and I sure as hell don't have to explain it to anyone.
Third undermining me saying to MY kid don't worry grandma loves you like I don't love him and that's why he can't do something he wants is way out of line.
Am I correct for being mad or should I just let it go?
Miranda Cano·
Мама сына (2 года)
@mummytobe093 see and that's the thing she'll ask to do that too but on things that you really should ask she doesn't. Little things like if he could eat fruit she asks.
Idk I just don't get it.
ND·
Мама двоих (младенец)
My mil asks me if she can give my kids water.... legit the amount of respect we have between us is extraordinary. Some people just don’t understand the word boundary.
Brea Carter·
Мама сына (4 года), беременна (33 нед.)
Oh wow...that type of stuff I couldn't deal with... she should be able to understand her parents probably did it with her... idc who it is they should respect your wishes regardless of how they feel
Willow Gray·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
@mmmcano the thing is, as your son gets older he will pick up on her behaviour and start to learn it. Thats not something you want him picking up x
sweetsap·
Not out of line. It's confusing for your poor son too, you and gma going in different directions. He's your child and you have to establish a pattern of him listening to you from now. If she's always giving him opposite instructions from you, he might not know who to listen to. A few years down the line she'll be complaining that he doesn't listen, and is hard to manage, that's what usually happens
Miranda Cano·
Мама сына (2 года)
@willow.gray I completely agree. She's tried many but frankly the medicine may be working she's just not taking them right. She refused to get the help though or when they ask doesn't answer correctly.
Willow Gray·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
@mmmcano maybe the meds aren't doing what they need to be and she needs to talk to a professional.
That behaviour just isnt healthy for her or anyone around her really.
Miranda Cano·
Мама сына (2 года)
@willow.gray very. And I just feel so bad because I do love her and she probably doesn't have long but then again I'm not the one telling her to go overboard. I never once said she had to hide herself in her room all day not eat or whatever. Frankly I do the opposite and have to force her out of her room. I never said he was banned from going upstairs. I just didn't want him going up right then. She takes something small and blows it completely out of proportion.
Willow Gray·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
She sounds toxic and manipulative
Miranda Cano·
Мама сына (2 года)
Like because of this she's saying she's just gonna stop her anxiety and depression meds.
Miranda Cano·
Мама сына (2 года)
@misscarter9313 I have. Many times. She pulls this pity party and starts saying no one loves her and other bull. 🙄
Brea Carter·
Мама сына (4 года), беременна (33 нед.)
I don't feel like your wrong if you don't want your child upstairs, on the floor, here or there.. people should respect your wishes and your choice grandma or not.. there's a line that shouldn't be crossed.. my son gma was the same way in the beginning I tell him no she tells him yes.. and it got to a point where he played the field between both of us.. if I say no he'd go to her and if she tell him no he'd come to me. And if I told him yes to something she said no too it'd be a problem.. and we get into it... just have to sit down and talk to her. Let her know..