So this week I've been so depressed. Last weekend my boyfriend (now ex) and I weren't getting along. He was drinking and decided to drink almost a whole bottle of captain morgan.. Well 3am came around and he "wasn't ready for bed". I knew why, he was messaging someone.. I asked who and he told me no-one, which I knew was a lie. I clearly seen him messaging someone. So I said ill just find out myself and took his phone, of course he came after me trying to get his phone back before I could see anything. He obviously knew I was gonna find something or he would have just sat there. He did put his arm around my neck, so me in defense swung (while my phone and his were in my hand) and I hit him in the face. Then I tried taking off into my moms room where he followed me and tried the same thing.. So again.. I swung (with both phones in my hand) I got him in the face in the same damn spot. He ran off to get the house phone while doing so kept yelling at me "You're going to jail" over and over. Called the police and obviously they showed up. I ended up getting taken because of him having marks and not me. I sat in a jail cell for about 1-2 hours. Boy was that horrible, then only to get transferred to prison until I seen a judge. After a couple hours I was released and able to come home. Ever since then.. I can't get over what happen. I have a preliminary hearing next week, he's says he's going to drop the charges (one minute he says he will, the next he changed his mind) so that's another thing I'm dealing with.. Him holding that over my head. I also don't want to be with him anymore we are too toxic for each other. He's accusing me of wanting someone else. Which defiantly isn't the case. I'm worried about my babies and that's it. But now if it ever comes down to it, he said he could take full custody because of re simple assault (domestic violence). There won't be an actual conviction but it'll still be on my background. I'm just super worried he will take off with our son, and possibly our daughter once she's born. He said he would never do that to me, but he could. So now that's another thing I'm sure he will hold over my head. We are still living in the same house and I just want out.. With my babies 😞😞 I feel so stuck. I feel if I really try to leave he will keep our kids. But I can't stay with him, I just can't do it anymore. Our child don't deserve to be around such a toxic relationship. Any opinions?? Please no harsh comments.
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@brossymommaoftwo, he lied because I had a similar situation and I didn’t press charges the ex spent two days in jail and nothing is on his record on if you are convicted does it show up
@brossymommaoftwo, it’s ok we all poop. I’m not that kind who is like eww nasty because it can all happened to everyone. Yea well when you have an appointment tell them that you started bleeding a little
@dragon_ball_mommy The morning I was let out and able to come home I was slightly bleeding. Either because of stress or because I had a hard time pooping sorry tmi. But it stopped. But yes I've been stressing ever since. I'm still depressed and his response is "its not that bad, things could be worse" as if I'm not allowed to feel this way
@brossymommaoftwo, I mean him holding you like that can harm the baby. You stressing can also harm the baby. I’m sure he loves his kids but he should have thought about what he was doing and also he was going after you when you took his phone you could have fallen and hurt your belly. I’m just saying
@dragon_ball_mommy Well I know he would never hurt our kids. I wasn't gonna lie to the cops. Oh and as I was being put in the cop car he was saying "I did this to myself, don't take her" like seriously?? I told them I did it. I owned up to it. Plus they wear cameras now. You're filmed the whole time.
They should have been on your side because you’re pregnant and him holding you like that is bad. You should have said I thought he would hurt my baby since he was drunk.
@uncouth I just worry. My babies are my everything. He also has aggravated assault. He's a felon. Been in and out of prison a couple times.
@dragon_ball_mommy They also told me even though the phone is in my name, its his property and I shouldn't have taken it. They mostly agreed with me and were on my side. Very nice to me and everything but said unfortunately they had to take me because of his eye.
@brossymommaoftwo, well let them know you were defending yourself. This shit happened to my auntie her husband would Break her phones and talk shit to her and her even choked her but since there was no marks they didn’t do shit to him. She was pregnant at the time too so I find it fucked up that they need to see something on you to take their ass to jail 🙄
@uncouth There was a report written. I have it. Not from me but the officer and its correct. I just don't want him taking custody and keeping my kids away. I don't know what ill do.
@dragon_ball_mommy yeah I guess. But his eye was pretty bad.
@brossymommaoftwo, well still it’s kinda the same ain’t it?
@dragon_ball_mommy He didn't choke me, just wrapped his arm around my neck. I'm sure that's what he was trying to do though.
@brossymommaoftwo, well then that’s fucked up because if they know he’s drunk obviously he also did something. Was he supposed to choke you hard enough to leave you a mark. If he chokes you even if it ain’t hard you still have to do something about it. They stupid honestly
Unless your convicted it won’t show up on your record.
I’m so sorry 😔 it sucks hope you have to show that they hit you like wtf. Didn’t they see that he was drunk though??
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It only shows up in your record if you're convicted which I doubt you'll be anyway. And they're not going to give your kids to him because he's a felon with a history of violence. He's just holding that over your head because he enjoys seeing you stressed and he thinks he has the upper hand. They won't take your kids from you, I'm positive!