So just feel like venting. Breast feeding is so demanding. With my daughter I was only able to for 3 weeks because I was exclusively pumping. She couldn't latch. And was barely producing anything. I felt my mental health failing. I felt like a failure. I felt trapped. I couldn't bond with my daughter. Formula was the best option for us. Now with my son im trying again. He won't latch often. So I'm mostly pumping. My supply is decently better than with my daughter. But I still feel emotionally drained. Because I'm already taking care of him and his sister and any relaxation time I would have for myself I use to pump for him. I'm gonna try and breast feed longer this time but if I feel myself becoming mentally unstable again. I'll probably stop. I'll just have to remind myself that fed is best. And I'm not a failure.
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@maesmommy04 @nomli that's how I was too. With my first daughter I managed to pump exclusively but now with the two of them I got so overwhelmed that I finally just switched to formula. My son was doing great latching until they sent us home from the hospital after his circumcision. Then I couldn't get him to latch so I had to pump. Now I'm trying to back down with pumping because I have oversupply. Fed is best, especially if it keeps you sane.
@qwiona @mamabear0416 @nomli thanks for the encouragement ladies! It's nice to see some agree with me!
That's why I stopped, too. The more I pumped the more anxious and just despondent I became. As soon as we switched to full formula I was better.
Yes, breastfeeding is great, but if it's at the cost of your sanity and wellbeing it isn't best.
You do what's best for you and your baby. Without your health in order, you can't take care of your baby. Also if you can, try talking to a lactation nurse. There's some kind of device that they can provide you with to help your son latch better. And if you're really wanting to produce more milk, eat a lot of oatmeal.
My daughter won't latch on my bare breast. I've been using a nipple shield and pumping. But definitely agree that it is demanding and draining