@princessrose I'm hoping the boy's don't gotta deal with it either.

@autism.mommy, it’s a hard decision. Hopefully it never has to come down to that. I was just talking to my mom about this, and she said when we were young she said she was just trying to be alive until we were 18 because she didn’t want us to go to our dad. Hopefully it never comes to that, but it’s something you have to think about.

@breezy81516, really? That’s interesting! Kind of sad they would possibly go against your wishes. But I would hope at least someone in the family got her.

@princessrose that is awesome! But, don't forget about you. I'm not stating placing the guardianship on someone else but talking to someone near and dear to you to be around. Someone who could actively be apart of your little one's life, to give off, or remind, of you.

Same here... It worries me as well. Cuz MY 2 older boy's dad not mentally capable to take care of the boy's plus he's into drugs n drinking and rest his fam yea. Only people i trust to take care of them right his grandparents but their to sick.... I asked my man if he would but honestly I don't think he be able to do it either alone with the issue's they have.

@krismoore87, yeah, I just don’t really want to pay for someone to write me up papers. But I’m afraid just writing a letter will still put her in foster care until they can prove the letters were from us. But we have talked about it some and we both agree his parents would have her.

I went through this. I immediately started a life insurance policy. If you do question what would be best for your little one would be to have the "talk" with your husband. It's amazing what you would find out about each other. I've made my decision to whom I'd like to set as an example in my sted, and so has my boyfriend. Having the legal documentation is the hardest part. Very morbid.

@princessrose, whatever you think is best girl! Good luck :)

@mommabear1014, we just had a death in the family, and I don’t want to freak people out by talking about us dying to be honest. Lol. But I’ll just wait it out and see.

@princessrose, you can contact a lawyer and have them draw one up but no matter what you can't make it happen. Your husband will have complete control over what comes next just like my child's father would no matter what I've written or what we've agreed to beforehand. It sucks but it's true. My best advice is to tell everyone what you'd want ahead of time or write them personal letters for if you were to pass early

@mommabear1014, I guess my thing is, how do I write it down and make sure it happens? Like do I write something and give it out to the family. Idk. Lol

Yes if I die I want my baby to go to my parents, not her father. He knows this, they know this. It's something I believe is very smart to think about because you never know what will happen.