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Necole

Kinda wanted to get some advice...

Kinda wanted to get some advice...

So my Boyfriend and together and in two months I’ll be giving birth to our son. (My third his first) he moved out in February because things were getting to heated, we argued about stupid stuff and he more than I had a hard time figuring out how to deal with his frustrations and stress with a household at home instead of just his single self like normally. So the apartment was for him to “find himself, and learn to control his anger better for a family. Now I’ve been asking him when is he coming back home because it’s now April and the baby will be here soon (he told me previously when the baby is about to come imma move back home before he’s born) well I ask today and he said we still bicker here and there and he gets in moods that he doesn’t want his bad days or whatever to effect the mood of us at home. So he might put in his 30 day notice in May but he will have to see how things get??? Should I just stop asking him to come home? Should I treat him differently because I feel if we are in a relationship about to have a baby in two months why would you not want to be home preparing with me for your son? I am hurt and confused by this and don’t know where I stand. He comes over to my house when he isn’t working and off, (his job is 54min from my house and 25min from his, that was also his reason for the apartment too.) I think it’s wasting money on bills you don’t have to pay, we could share the bills at my house. But i dont know , non judge mental advise is welcome. NEGATIVITY I DONT CARE TO HEAR.

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momx3_2018

Necole

@remanicunningham, thank you for your prayers. I don’t want to be naive but I don’t want to push him into something he is afraid or not ready for. I didn’t ask for this either but I feel I’ve been blessed by God to have understanding for others and their situations. Regardless of my own emotions but I am human and I want to put my foot down but don’t wanna lose him.🤦🏻‍♀️ (long story short I’ve given up so much to be with him I hate to watch me have done all that for nothing)

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Rae

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Hey mommy warrior!

In this situation ive dealt with somthing slightly similar and ilk tell u what someone told me if he is showing you whom he is now 1 believe him the actions not words 2nd You've asked for a sign well here it is, i don't know u but u are on your precious gem #3 and God intended for u to be this child's mother. You are a strong woman and a patient one as well . Continue to communicate but learn to not allow the actions of someone else's faults and non apperences affect u! I will be praying for u mighty mommy warrior!

Much love Rae!❤❤❤

kenyettegray

kenyette gray

I’ve never heard of a situation like this but think it is a great idea to separate in order to get communication back on track, GOOD FOR YOU GUYS!! has he thought about doing an ongoing anger support group or even participating in anger management? I come from a counseling background and would even suggest outpatient counseling to help as things come up after he moves back in to help with his coping and maybe even some couples counseling to help with how you guys communicate with each other!! I think you guys will come back to each other if you want and i commend you for being patient, I’d keep following up with him to make sure he’s on the same page and the end goal remains the same!!!!

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