@lyndsay.johnsen1085, I’m sorry to hear your family dislike him . But it seems he has changed ! He made progress ! Which is good . He’s not in the same steps as he use to be . I would be with y baby’s father if he would had changed .

My family doesn't like my BF because of his past. He was into bad stuff and made huge mistakes. But as long as he is sober I'm not worried about him one bit. He has no intentions of using again, but they just see that he's a felon and pass judgement...

Trust me it is not easy at one point I was blaming everything on my son bcuz everything started happening once he was born I felt like he was the problem and girl u have no idea how much I punish myself for ever thinking that! It hurts me to think that family can make u feel like shit about your decisions and for what makes you happy I’m glad I talked to my hubs about the feeling I had towards my son at the moment I was going thru all of this 😩😤 yes it is hard when you don’t have support from your own family but it’s even harder when you have to choose between your family that you are raising and the family that raised you

@ymoreno16, well I have to give you lots of props for what you have overcame . It’s not easy . And fuck yes is hard to leave your kids with someone , that you don’t trust !! It’s crazy how things just change when you become a family with your partner . Sometimes it’s like you don’t have a family . And girl , no relationship is perfect ! Lol it’s hard and it takes two to make it work . I’m glad you did that .

Not trusting your partner with his own kid it’s sad bcuz your family not been okay with your relationship with him plays a big part trust me I was afraid to leave my son with him too I don’t trust nobody with my son other then my aunt which I consider her my mom, it’s normal to go thru all the stress when you’re worry about what your family is gonna day or do I was there too it’s fucked up now bcuz I don’t trust my own family with my son seen how they changed him now I decided to go by what my heart wanted my son became an issue to them and that was my clue to not give a fuck about what happen to them I knw it might sound like am a heartless bitch but I went thru a lot after taking the big step in my life to choose my husband over my family and my husband was always there for me like nobody else was 😩❣️ I thank God for te man he put in my life yes not gonna lie sometimes I feel like chopping him off and put him in a suitcase lol but we make it work you need to worry about your babies & your little family but mostly worry about YOU! remember without you there’s not them 💖💕

@ymoreno16, wow that’s is amazing to hear ! I really wished my daughter spent more time with him . But the reality is I don’t trust him on his own with her . 😢it sadness me . And to top it off , he lives so near by and I just wish I can trust him more and I won’t worry when I work that he can take care of her . But fuck man , I guess I have to be patient . And well your right , you have to do what’s good for your family . Inothing else matters , but your son to be happy . And I’m glad you made that step ! Sometimes you need an extra push you get me .

Oh man . 💪🏼thank you for the wise words mama .

@taylorsmommy1017, Jesus lord ! Then why don’t they like him ? That’s fucking ridiculous ! I would understand if he didn’t work , was lazy , and didn’t support you . But you don’t have to worry about anything . I wish mine was that way . 😞

It takes a lot of time trust me it will fuck you up emotionally like there’s no other 😩 but if you have the support of your partner it will make it way easier he always tells me you don’t have to do shit more me especially when it comes to your family but again nobody else lives or stands with him like we do, he knows how much he means to me and before putting me I always put my son my son’s eyes light up as soon as he hears te car in the parking lot and waits for him at the door screaming at the top of his lungs for his “papa” & that right there makes me realize how much my little own family means to me seen my son’s reaction when his dad is around makes me believe I made the right decision even if it wasn’t what I wanted for me but I did it for my kids 💖💕 you will be fine take your time baby girl don’t rush things take your own little steps it’s okay trust me ❣️

@kambam, agreed girl !!!! 😍😍❤️ you know how I feel , I’ve been hurt so much in the past and I still feel you have a guard up . 💪🏼

@ymoreno16, wow !!!! It takes guts to to that !!!! I really need to fucking out my foot down ! And say what I mean !!! But fuck that extremely hard !!! I love my family so much , but they don’t understand ! I’m glad you did something about it ! And you were happy of your decision ! At the end of the day it’s just you and your kids and basically your partner is the one that can be there for you and the kids .

But omg 😮

When will I do this . Fuck

You will feel what's right in your heart as time goes on..but for now you gotta use your head! Stay focused on you and your daughter first always

It took me more then a year trust me it is not fucking easy I had to lie about so much shit too bcuz I wanted to please my family bcuz shit family is family and it should come 1st I had my son and after 4 months I left him and went my way and he went his I couldn’t even tell him if e wanted to see our son bcuz they would get mad we got back together and after a couple weeks we separated again, it happened a couple of times but me talking to my mom ( aunt) about how I felt for him she told me “ fuck what everyone else thinks, yes it is going to hurt not been able to talk to your family but it will kill you not to be able to be with the man you love when the father of your kids, your kids come before anyone in this world and if you feel like you two are Kent to be then let it be, don’t waste your time trying to please me your dad ( uncle) or your family, make sure YOU’RE family is good) and that’s when I realize that it didn’t matter what I did to please them wasn’t gonna matter bcuz at the end they will never like him. So girl you do you and your family can step aside with their opinion is you the one making your family grow not them 💖

@taylorsmommy1017, why? Is there something that happens before and after ?? Omg I’m sorry , sometimes things don’t go the way you want . Well my family did kinda was the reason too why we broke up too . But I guess they are kinda right . I think parents sometimes feel if it’s right or wrong for you .

Even if I don’t live with him I still deal with him . 😧

@kambam, that’s exactly what I’m doing . I just let him do him , and be a dad . And well I don’t really know if I’m doing the right thing but I feel like it’s right . Thank you 🙏 ❤️

@ymoreno16, wow 😮 thank you for sharing your story with me . How long did it take to get use to the fact they won’t like him ever ? It’s just so hard to please everyone and it’s like most of the time I have to lie about me seing him . That’s is what I’m most afraid of !i don’t want my daughter seing all this drama . To separate between me and him , with him and baby .

This is so complicated 😨

That is hard. I'm a single mom myself. My family doesn't get along with baby dad. I let him be a dad and just focus on myself. Just because y'all don't get along doesn't mean you can't parent together ☺ there is always someone out there who is better for you though!

@kambam, hi . And well I’ve had the conversation with my family . Especially my parents , but they say that ! Exactly what you just said , he’s not the one for me . Hess too immature , which is so true . 😧😧it’s hard because I have a daughter by him , and he’s always trying to see her . We don’t live together .

My family has been against my relationship with my husband since day one I don’t talk to some of my family members bcuz of the fact that they can’t stand him been around, he has also put his family on the side bcuz they don’t like me, but honestly it’s about you and your little family what your family outside your marriage thinks shouldn’t matter you’re the one that is happy and is doing what’s best for not only you but the family you have now created baby girl don’t feel down always remember that your babies feed off your energy and how you feel they will feel 💕💕 best of wishes

I would have an honest conversation about it. Why they feel that way and what everyone can do to help feel more connected. Usually when my family doesn't like a partner it means they aren't the one for me!! Not always but they know me best.