Omg please read* abused woman finally finding her voice (myself) scared to send but I know I need to…
Omg please read* abused woman finally finding her voice (myself) scared to send but I know I need to 🙏🏽
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No argument please.. Since you text me the other day that I don't hold my word, or do what I say I'm going to do. I'm going to break it down for you. I need to be able to work all shifts like you are able to get up and go to work at anytime given to you because you know that I or Tiffany is going to care for our daughter. So this is how it's going to go. You are going to make your schedule around her Talianna your daughter. I have sacrificed been sick and have been her number one caregiver since she was born. I received sick benefits for duration of my pregnancy and maternity leave for an additional one year of 700+ dollars biweekly. So after I obtained employment I worked casual meaning my hours varied and are not guaranteed so very hard to budget with a casual position. In order for me to take a loan is risky because my income is not stable. You do not need to worry about her well being because I carry that responsibility alone, you wake up grab your lunch and start your shifts at anytime your employer tells you without hesitation. So now how about we reverse this. You figure out how you are going to get to work and start all wee hours of the morning or anytime that your employer wants and I will get up get dressed and go do double shifts and work however Ihow many ever hours. I will take my shifts without reservation and pay most bills in the house including mortgage effortlessly. Then how about i look down on you to catch up to me and get with the program. But I won't be a bully like you I believe you reap what you sow. This is my solemn declaration I Telisa (Lisa) state this letter of intent to you Devon (Richard) . So you no longer have to be fed up and blame me for not having enough funds you will now be the one responsible for getting our daughter to daycare or staying home or whatever you have to do. while I work 16-22 hour days. I won't be as mean as you and look down at you like a worthless human being, you'll do a great job all on your own because you have had tons of practice on me. No argument please I'm just keeping it real. I'm no longer stressing myself to find adequate childcare or have my child who is suppose to be studying herself watching our daughter for me to go to work. I had enough of your put downs long enough. I work 12:30-6:30 or 10:30-6:30 and I would like to earn more money and give more availability to my employer as this is a joint responsibility of parenting. I will pull my own and commit to paying and able to pay bills with my guarantee hours plus overtime for additional shifts that have now opened to me since you will be figuring out childcare for your schedule instead. Regardless if im living here or not. I will work like crazy and get up and go as I please to my work and gave adequate amount of time to rest as you do, eat shower and sleep. Now that's what I call even and only fair. So the problem is figured out I can push out and be a bread winner and you can base your work schedule around our daughter. I will look after her as my child still as im her mother but since I will end up working more than you it's fair to say that your income will drop significantly and you will be home more. Have a wonderful day my abuser. I'm taking my life back no more put down or insults. It's just that simple! Now the truth is writting. I love my kids enough to stand up for myself and stop walking on eggshell and trying to juggle by myself. Please don't spank Talianna as she is only 17 month old, be patient and play with her do her hair just be a dad as this is your chance to get it right seeing you weren't there for your other children. I'm entrusting you with her while I'm at work ok please this isn't a few hours or minutes.. Please no nasty messages as I'm being respectful and mindful and not rocking the boat. If you cuss me or say anything derogatory to me that's on you. No more hitting me with your fists or mouth texting my nasty voice messages. I know this was a shot in the dark as you love power too much and for me to make 27-32$ hourly working however I choose will not sit well with you because I'm being empowered and you will feel like the weaker link. Crossing my fingers you take it like a man only one could wish.
Sincerely,
Telisa
meghan ·
Мама сына (1 год)
Good for you for saying something and posting this. This will be super empowering for a lot of women. ❤️
Rebecka ·
This is what you were going through, and you still did all your amazing diy projects? Amazing. I hope he will read what you wrote in its entirety and let that sink in. Why do men have to feel so diminished just because they earn less than their partner, when they can focus on so many other aspects of life, such as setting an example to their children that it is not money that makes a mans worth, but their actions.