How do you break a defiant 2 year old of a really bad attitude? I'm not against spanking but I only ever give her a little pop and it's rare. I'm afraid to do more than a pop cause I'm scared my temper will get the best of me. Time out barely works. The main problem is she doesn't understand that she is not the boss. She will do something she's not supposed to do, that she knows she's not supposed to do, and when I get onto her she gets onto me for making her upset or making her cry or yelling or she will say "you DON'T put me in timeout" or "you DONT spank me" I love her to death and she can be sweet bit this little attitude is getting to be a bit much and I have no idea how to break her of it. But it needs to be done especially seeing as her baby brother will probably be born Wednesday.