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Tiffany
nellybamba
Tiffany·Мама сына (7 лет)
Okay so let me just say that I am not trying to offend anyone but it's bound to happen. But all these teen moms are scaring the crap out of me lol. I say this because I have a 17 year old step daughter and I would be mortified if she popped up pregnant within the next few years. Yes she'll be an adult but I would prefer she hold off until she is financially stable, emotionally intelligent and hopefully in a committed relationship if not married. I want her to experience life and achieve her dreams before she has to deal with the responsibilities of another life. I watched my little cousin who was a honor roll student go from being military or college bound to having 3 kids basically back to back and living in government projects on government assistance. The worst part is she's comfortable with that. I myself grew up in the hood and I wouldn't want that for my child. I understand that sometimes mistakes happen (yes some pregnancies are mistakes that doesn't mean you don't love your child) but I feel like it is irresponsible to PLAN a child that you are not ready to support financially, emotionally, culturally and intellectually. This is a tough world and you want to give your child the greatest advantage of being happy, safe and successful. To all the teen moms that are currently pregnant or already have children don't get complacent. Do what you have to become financially responsible to provide for yourself and your child. If possible don't give up any educational or career goals that you have for yourself. Remember, you are still somebody's child and (in most cases) they want the best for you as well. My mom and dad were teen parents and I love them both but I grew up poor pretty much. My younger brother and I bounced around with different relatives until my father eventually got custody of us after he got married. I was 14 by then. After high school I went into the military where I experienced different places, people and things. That's also how I paid for college. My mom and dad are still a hot mess lol My dad has since divorced and they both are still struggling financially. It's a burden on me sometimes tbh. Anyway, I didn't mean to write a novel or offend any past or current teen moms. I did intend to encourage any teen or tweens that are ttc to reevaluate your situation to see if you are really prepared for that "mom life."
24.02.2018
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emilyinsd
Emily A·Мама дочки (7 лет)
When I was in college I was paranoid about getting pregnant, and that was college! Last night I saw one mom talking about how her 13 year old sister might be pregnant. I read through the comments and most of them were talking about how you shouldn’t have kids before 16 and how they themselves were ready for motherhood at 16 but 13 is too young. When I was 16 I was very responsible and was basically running the house and taking care of my 3 younger siblings (my dad works a lot and my mom was restricted to the bed from back problems, everything is fine now). So if I was given a baby I was responsible enough to take care of one but I wasn’t ready for one. Everyone thinks a baby is an act of love (one can be but not every time) but they fail to show other acts first. My husband and I were together over 5 years before trying and found many ways to show love to each other (and enjoyed every one of them). I am constantly amazed at how people can minimize large responsibility but exaggerate importance of small items.
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jaquelinerachelle
Jaqueline Pearce·Мама сына (6 лет)
man. My parents would have killed me if I had gotten pregnant in highschool.
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nerualauren
lauren·Мама двоих (7 лет, 15 лет)
Agreed!! I was at a private school with a full scholarship to a great university to pursue a law degree, when I got pregnant my senior year. I had my son right before the first semester started and since I couldn’t start I lost my scholarship. It was very very difficult financially for me and even to complete my degree. I wouldn’t condone teen pregnancy!
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