I left Paul. Im in a shelter. He is still making threats and trying to find me, but im trying to stay strong. After my…

@mommyof2girlz aww!

@lovebeingmommy, never in my life I saw that coming. That was 8 years ago. You will pick up the pieces. You will move on. I didn't have kids with my ex. But I went on to get my masters degree and a graduate certificate in the field I have a passion for. Met my now husband at the library. He walked up to me asking to proof read his paper. (Umm never ask me to proof read something 😂). And now we have been married 3 years in April and have 2 babies.

@mommyof2girlz oomg

@lovebeingmommy, good. I went through leaving an abusive ex before and starting over. It's not easy. He will try to find you. We lived 1600 miles from my hometown. I left with what I could in my car. Had to call the car insurance company to not have him cancel my car. When I got to my parents, first things I did was go to the registry and get new plates and insurance; got my own cell plan. Months of harassment through email went by. I didn't do anything. Then the 1 weekend my parents go away.... he showed up at my house. I thank Facebook and awesome friends for being on the lookout for me. I got out of there, notified the police (the chief knew what was going on because he's friends with my dad). Got a temporary order and an order that Monday. Never saw him again. Not even for our divorce. I was able to hire a lawyer to go in my presence.

A few years later, I let the order lapse... he started calling me. My now husband and I were dating. He answered my phone and told him off. Same day, he took me to the cell phone company and we got me a new number, changed my carrier, etc.

Even though he's far away, it's something I'll never forget. I have trust issues from him, I'm afraid to be alone for a long period of time. My husband got us a German shepherd.

Last night some creepy guy was literally on the porch looking at the mailboxes. He was going house to house. My husband was out with his cousin. I call him. He says let the dog into the living room. I did. The guy was gone quickly. I then found out boxes and mail have been missing from his cousin who lives upstairs.

His cousin of course decides to be a creep and look in the windows when they get back 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

You did the right thing mama I’m so glad you got out

@oktoberwitch thank you so much. Im so afraid. But i know this is the best choice

@mommyof2girlz im saving everything. I took him off snap chat and told him ill only talk to him through text

You’re going to be okay. I know your probably nervous or scared, but domestic abuse can from turn verbal to deadly, I know from experience, I almost lost my mom. You’re doing the right thing for you and your children and hopefully your shelter can point you in the right direction. If you need support, I’m sure plenty of people have offered but you can always message me as well. I fully support this decision, you’re bad ass.

Yeah that seems like the best thing to do given the circumstances hun. Since do nothing all day he shouldn't miss you guys all that much. Block him on your phone if it gets out of hand. Shelters can be such great support in situations like this, I've been there it's not that bad and this too shall pass

Omg girl!

Well done on leaving. Its a step in the right direction. Just make sure someone knows where you are all the time and inform as many people as you can about whats going on so they can help you.

If his threats are in writing, save them. If you are telling him to stop and he doesn't; that's harassment. Happens 3 times in MA you can get a harassment order which is similar to a restraining order.

Good for you tho. I hope things start getting better soon.