CPS is no good for nothing, Family court is no good for nothing. I guess it's just up to me. Cps…
CPS is no good for nothing, Family court is no good for nothing. I guess it's just up to me. Cps said by there standards his house is fine. I know that guy is dirty and I know his house is dirty so cps has so pretty low standards. They don't care that my child goes dirty and disgusting while he's there and that he's medically neglected. That's just fucking awesome! Family court doesn't care either! They only care when something terrible happens then they intervene well isn't that just fucking great! I'm thrilled 😒 I love that my child can be treated like a scumbag and no one will do anything about it and that he can be neglected medically and that's ok too! Well jeez thank you NY state for make me feeling safe about sending my child to his fathers!
Ally·
Its ridiculous! And people wonder why noone ever stepped up and reports or fights against the shit. Bc the law doesn't care until its too late
Jess·
@lovebeingmommy, idk why I even bothered I knew they weren't going to do much but the girl was kind of a bitch like I'm trying to look out for the well being of my child! She's like I understand that but by NY state child welfare standards he's not doing anything wrong. 😒 so by there standards it's ok for kids to go unbathed and wear the same nasty dirty clothes for days and days, be returned filthy and smelly and live in a nasty house as long as it's not deplorable. Way to go NY! Way to go 👏🏻 not to mention he's medically neglectful if my child but that's ok too. 🙄 she's like you can take him back for custody but otherwise we can't do anything. Well family court isn't either. I just hope when my child is old enough to choose to go or not he chooses not too and I won't force him.
Courtney·
He prob cleaned they gave my friend notice before they showed up
Jess·
@courtneyhodge486, I'm thinking they must of because they probably couldn't get him by just randomly showing up. I know the guy lives like a dirt bag. But my friend whose a social worker and the case worker said they have really low standards for what they look for so unless his how was like a hoarder house and bugs deplorable conditions it didn't matter. My friend said his house probably is dirty and gross but by NY state it doesn't matter they don't care. And they should care more when there's a 1 year old crawling around. They even said he can leave him in the same clothes for days and days and there's nothing they can do I'm like how is there nothing you can do for that?! That is all hygiene she said that there just wasn't and it's all he said she said. They barely looked at anything when they came to my house either.But my house is spotless anyway. And I have everything my child needs and could ever want. It's sad that our system fails our children. So my child is just suppose to be a dirt bag while he's there cause his dad is negligent and doesn't care? 🙁 it shouldn't have to be that way!
Courtney·
That's really crazy that they care so little for a child's well being
Jess·
@courtneyhodge486, it really is! Those people should be ashamed. I wanted to tell that girl I hoped she slept well at night knowing she doesn't keep the children of NY state safe. No wonder so many bad things happen to children and they just slip through the cracks of the system. I feel truly sorry for the kids in far worst situations. It's sickening. Basically something horrible has to happen for CPS or family court to do anything. And my lawyer and that case worker both told me that. And that's wrong. Why not do something to prevent it? I want to write a letter to who ever is in charge of all of these things that fail our innocent children.
Courtney·
Why wouldn't they think what if this was my child?
Jess·
@courtneyhodge486, she was just like I understand where you are coming from but by NY state there is nothing he is doing wrong and since my son is a baby he can't actually say that anything is going on. But even based off me saying it it doesn't matter based off NY state. So basically unless he's being physically or sexually abused and I can prove it or is living in a deplorable situation they won't do anything. Like I know my ex's house is dirty as hell, but based of NY state it's ok.... I don't get it. I don't get how my son being kept in the same clothes and being kept dirty and gross and living in a gross house is ok? Hygiene is huge but I guess cps doesn't care if they are kept clean or not :/ I will never understand it. Plus he has a inground pool that we had to go to court about to make sure about safety and they did nothing about it. Because there was no safety perimeter fence. So it makes me nervous when my sons starts walking and he's there this summer
Courtney·
The only thing you can do is to continue to bug CPS to go there until they see it
Jess·
@courtneyhodge486, if he continues to keep doing what he's doing I will. She made me feel like I was a huge bother. 🙄 like sorry for trying to do the right thing for my child. No one wants to look out for him but me and my family.
Courtney·
I don't blame you at all!