My husbands father was physically abusive (he’s 75 so old school and was terrible) but is the kindest man with our son. He’s a completely different person towards his grandson as he was towards his son 35 years ago so maybe they’ll treat their grandchildren better but my mom was abusive towards me (starved and neglected me and social services removed me at 12) and I haven’t spoken to her since and even if she claims to have changed I’d NEVER let her around my children so it’s completely up to you how you feel about who you have your child around but I’d make the decision with your child’s best interests at heart and no one else’s because that’s all that matters and your child comes before anyone else family or not

I disowned my mother and her side of the family. My father passed when I wad young. I only talk to my brother. My mother was horrible and told me I was lying when I told her that her father molested me at 13. So yeah.

Totally your decision. I feel the same way about my mom, but she is around my son everyday. Nobody else understands why I feel this way. But she is very toxic to be around and a lot of her behaviors I do not agree with. It isn't ideal now but one day I plan to not have either of my children around her at all... I am very mindful of things when she is around him. Nobody else needs to understand why you feel that way or agree with you, for it to be the right decision. I know my mom would never physically hurt my son but it's inevitable that she will hurt his mind.

I'm in a similar situation and I believe it should be up to you. They are your kids, you have every right to make decisions for them until they're grown.. and I'm sure you're only looking out for them and doing what is in their best interests.

I disowned my mother because she was a narcissistic person and my son does not know her nore does he need to. If you want your children to never know those people for those reasons then stick to it don’t change it you know what’s best for your children don’t ever second guess it because next thing you know you allow it one time and something bad happens . Stand your ground because no matter what you are the only one who knows what is best for your child men seem to push things off a lot easier because they fail to fully comprehend lol

Your kids your choice that's all it comes down to. In my opinion though I agree with you.