I need to rant and it seems this is a better place than Facebook since most of you know what co parenting is supposed to…
I need to rant and it seems this is a better place than Facebook since most of you know what co parenting is supposed to be about.
I get my oldest child (daughter) every weekend, last weekend I had to skip bc my husband had the flu and didn’t want her to catch it.
This Friday she has a dance and her dad said I could have her sat morning.
She has plenty of other chances for dances but her dad said she was going and that’s that.
I could have her sat or not at all.
ITS MY WEEKEND and she is only in 2nd grade, there are other dances she can attend.
Like omg I’m big and pregnant and soon it’s going to be hard to even pick her up bc I could go into labor at time literally.
Am I a bad parent for trying to get my daughter to skip a dance and spend time with us?
I mean he is so rude and never works with me, it’s his way or no way.
He then throws in my face, well your husband can come get her.
Yes, he could but he missed a whole week of school and needs the extra time to make up for homework.
He is in school for OUR future.
And is able to make he drive Friday but since we have no say in getting her Friday then we don’t get her at all.
Am I crazy?
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Why not take her to the dance?
Jessica·
Мама двоих (1 год, 8 лет), ждёт третьего
@jskidsmom, id Love too but we live an hour and half away. The driving locally kills me now.
That’s why my husband goes with me every Friday to pick her up and every Sunday to take her back. I don’t want her to miss something she wants to do but I want to be selfish because I didn’t get to see her last weekend and there are going to be other dances for to attend
Rachel Adams·
Мама четверых детей, беременна
Ask your daughter what she wants. He should support her decision even if it's not what he likes. She isn't hurting anyone. That's what my ex and I would do. Our daughter is now in 4th grade so if he and I don't agree, we ask her without persuading her either way.
Jessica·
Мама двоих (1 год, 8 лет), ждёт третьего
@raycharles1230, I sent a text to him saying ask her, but he doesn’t care and wants her to go regardless.
Jessica·
Мама двоих (1 год, 8 лет), ждёт третьего
@raycharles1230, she is old enough to decide what she wants to do, and it breaks my heart that he already said before I texted him about the weekend.
He prepared her for not coming.
Like wow you’re an ass I want my kid and it’s my weekend.
Rachel Adams·
Мама четверых детей, беременна
And if she does want to go to her dance, don't be upset because you don't get time with her, she will always be your daughter and you guys can make it up sometime. It's tough to get into that mindset, trust me I know! But it will work out for the best. Ask her... good luck
Jessica·
Мама двоих (1 год, 8 лет), ждёт третьего
@raycharles1230, I get that and that’s fine if I hear it coming from her, but her dad is just so rude and doesn’t let her decide anything
Rachel Adams·
Мама четверых детей, беременна
That sucks... my other ex is that way. He is inconsiderate especially when it comes to my son and I. And he was abusive to me and my daughter so I never deal with his unpredictability well. Thankfully my daughters father and I get along very well. I would ask her still and try to reason with him if she says she doesn't want to go to the dance.
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- Is it a daddy daughter dance ?
Jessica·
Мама двоих (1 год, 8 лет), ждёт третьего
@beccaaalynnn11, no just a Valentine’s Day dance.
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Maybe you should think of your daughter? Maybe she wants to go to the dance..
Jessica·
Мама двоих (1 год, 8 лет), ждёт третьего
@raisinglittledoves, oh course I thought of her, the point I was getting at is that he said she was going and that’s that.
I wanted to hear from her that’s what she wanted and not what he wants, ya know?
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Yeah I completely understand 😥 Did he let you ask her?
Jessica·
Мама двоих (1 год, 8 лет), ждёт третьего
@raisinglittledoves, nope, all I received was a text saying she is going to the dance and she will see you next weekend.