i’m honestly so upset. today was my boyfriend & i’s anniversary & i thought we would spend the whole day together but he…

@mckallalynn.., i’m so glad i found it too holy crap

@agrace15 I love that app, but I feel like a lot it women act like they have the perfect life and then when you go seeking advice they tell you how it's so wrong, etc that's why I'm glad you found this one and then posted it.

@mckallalynn.., i feel like that app is overwhelmed with a lot of perfect partnerships & so when someone says something like this they’re like oh no i wouldn’t allow it!!

@beemommyof3, thank you

i’ll update you guys after i talk to him

Could you imagine posting this on PTracker? Lmao, this is the type of post that would have 500 replies of "leave him" 😂 @agrace15

@agrace15 Maybe. Dont overwhelm yourself. It is your day. You shouldnt have to ask for anything. Good luck girl

@mckallalynn.., thank you so much! it’s so helpful to speak about it to others before trying to talk to him.

@agrace15. I'm so sorry 😕 I hate that you feel like that, guys can be asses and they don't think that what they do really hurt us. I'm here if you ever need to talk or vent! I hope he starts appreciating you more! You deserve it.

@beemommyof3, agreed. i guess i need to crack a whip

I understand but if the shoe were on the other food would this be acceptable behavior for you while he is home alone with a newborn. you would be considered a bad mother for doing so, why let it ride for him. What you allow will continue.

@mckallalynn.., i never ask for anything in return besides his love & help & sometimes i feel like i don’t get either of them

I agree with a new baby and everything it's easier to say f it. You gotta pick and choose your battles.

No u r not!

@agrace15 most guys do.

@beemommyof3, yeah, it’s just easier not to fight. we used to do it so much & im so sick of it

@mckallalynn.., he used to thank me every day for it but he seems to take advantage of it lately.

@agrace15 @mckallalynn.., i’ve just put up with it for so long now that i’m just like okay, you go do what you want.

This one!

@agrace15 you seem to have sacrificed a lot for him, he should want to love on you and spend time with you for all you do for him .

@beemommyof3, what do you mean?

@mckallalynn.., exactly! he just acts like most 20 year old guys do & he has gotten so much more mature lately but still has a lot to do

That comment you just made is exactly why he goes.

@beemommyof3, he gets so sad leaving him every time but today he just could not wait to get out of the house. he didn’t even kiss either of us good bye

Also being 20 has nothing to do with it. SO & I are young but our son comes before anything. After all we are a family.

Really shouldn't have to force him. He should want to anyway. 😕

@mckallalynn.., i’ve just put up with it for so long now that i’m just like okay, you go do what you want

@beemommyof3, i’m going to try to talk to him again & remind him how limited time is & see how he reacts

@agrace15 you must really be a calm woman. I'd end up blowing my top on him. Lol

@mckallalynn.., i try talking to him but he gets so defensive

@agrace15, 😧😬😑

Yeah. 😕😕😕

I would talk to him and tell him how you feel and how things need to be. He needs to grow up he has a baby now. @agrace15

@adams2017, i tried talking to him before he left & he just said whatever & left & didn’t even say bye

@beemommyof3, yes, we talk about the future just about every day. he helps out a lot in the hours he is here & since it’s going to be basically stripped from both of us when he goes back to classes, i figured he would stay as long as he could until he has to go back

@mckallalynn.., yess exactly I do the same

@mckallalynn.., we’re different because i would never take away time from him. he has only so many hours with his son & i would never take that away from him & if i did, i wouldn’t hear the end of it

@agrace15, exactly it's one day no matter if y'all staying home or what not tf is so important that he gtta leave you for his boys on y'all anniversary if talk to him about your feelings most def

Wow. So have you talked about the future? If he is at school and friends then he cant be helping you

@agrace15 would you ever do this to him? And if you did how would he act? That's how I look at things plus it's yalls anniversary,that has NOTHING to do with his friends.

@mckallalynn.., agreed

@beemommyof3, 20, but yeah, still kids i guess. i gave up school to get a full time job & insurance so that he could stay & get his degree.

@agrace15 he needs to get his priorities straight

@mckallalynn.., he just used the excuse that he spent last night & most of today with us. but he goes back to school on tuesday & will hardly be able to see us with all the homework & classes he has.

Oh got cha. so you guys are kids. Makes more sense. Yeah. he is ready to settle down yet. He may be ready in a few years

@adams2017, & we normally watch shameless every sunday & he was like “well we can watch it another day” well yeah we can, but you can also hang out with your friends another day

@agrace15 I would be pissed, you and your son should come first no matter what.

@beemommyof3, he’s in school still

@caseysmommy92, i thought he would want to stay with me more so he could see our son but i guess not

Does he work or anything?

@agrace15 i wouldnt be that upset untill u said how much time he spends with his friends. That alone yes i woupd be upset

Not selfish at all idc whatever that's a special day if he can't tell his friends for one day he can't hang I mean I'm sorry 😐 I'd be upset to @agrace15,

@beemommyof3, he always does this. he says he has my whole life with me& not with them

@caseysmommy92, no he slept in until 12 & then we came to my parents to hang out & they made dinner & he left right after

@agrace15 well i didnt knoe all that. Idk why a grown man with a wife and kids need to be gone all the time with friends.

How can he spend so much time with them?

@agrace15 did he take u out anywhere? I wouldnt be mad if i went out to eat or a movie then we went to his friends.

@beemommyof3, he also spent five days straight with them this week

@caseysmommy92, i know, it just didn’t feel long enough :/

it’s not even because i wanted the time with him, it’s because he left town for 5 days & didn’t get to see our son that whole time & then didn’t stay the whole day with him

Being with his friends on your anniversary is terrible

I wouldn't be mad if u got to spend time with him hun