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Elena Lee
elenalee
Elena Lee·Мама троих детей
I’ll probably regret posting this, but... I just don’t understand how the same parents that are so against spanking are the same parents yelling and screaming at their kids? Like how is a swat done correctly and calmly and with explanation be worse than dramatic, emotional yelling?? I’ve heard from truly abused as children adults say that it was the words that stuck with them and damaged them long after the physical pain was over. Just some thoughts🤷🏻‍♀️
15.01.2018
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llewellyncarli13
I was spanked and I’m just fine. Along with my other two siblings who are 18 and 23. I STRONGLY believe in spanking a child who acts like a fool and for other reasons as well. Spanking is not “bad parenting” and I don’t think any mother should say someone has bad parenting skills only because they spank their kids.
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momoftwoboy
Ray ·Мама двоих (5 лет, 6 лет)
My kids will be spanked. If they deserve it I was spanked and not a damn thing wrong with me
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yurmomsahoe
A·Мама троих детей
@elenalee that being said, we're a spanking/scolding family lol my daughter is so naughty!!! And fast... lmao I'm going to have to watch this one... Like a hawk..
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elenalee
Elena Lee·Мама троих детей
@mississippi.mama, exactly!!
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yurmomsahoe
A·Мама троих детей
There's also a difference between a spanking and a beating.. When you dicipline, you spank. When you abuse, you beat. Scolding is diciplinary, whereas yelling is abuse.
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tavi.young
Forever Young·Мама двоих (7 лет, 8 лет)
For sure, anything to the extreme is no bueno. I aim for balance.
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elenalee
Elena Lee·Мама троих детей
@mommaofjais, @tavi.young, I mostly write this from watching my sister parent her kids and she is so against spanking but has no issues with full out screaming. It’s terrifying for me to watch I can’t imagine how that would feel to a child. Like how is that better?!! Of course we all have our days and raising your voice occasionally is not the same as screaming as your go-to discipline.
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delete-please
I agree my mom said some pretty hurtful things too me in the pass and I definitely still remember.
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tavi.young
Forever Young·Мама двоих (7 лет, 8 лет)
Agree! Psychological studies have found, a calm but swift swat to the patted part of the bottom in SOME circumstances once child is past infancy and before age 5ish can be BENEFICIAL. As opposed to the alternative of yelling when vocabulary is being established. We all have our days, and there is a right and wrong way to do everything, but we shouldn't judge each other as long as no harm is being done.
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mommaofjandm
·Мама двоих (5 лет, 8 лет)
First, there’s a difference between spanking and abuse but I agree. Verbal abuse definitely sticks. I was spanked and dealt with verbal abuse as a child. And I only remember the words my parents said to me rather than the times I was spanked.
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Neither one is a good parenting technique. Hitting children only builds resentment. Yelling and throwing fits only teaches the child to behave in a similar manner. Both cases are of bad parenting. That being said I don’t know a single parent who hasn’t shouted NO at their mischievous toddler 🙄
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I don't believe in spanking but I also don't believe in yelling but we are all human and have bad days 🤷.
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