venting sorry...my mom n i are really close but im super upset with her. she thinks it’s funny to…
venting sorry...my mom n i are really close but im super upset with her. she thinks it’s funny to joke about my hormones n aches n says her grandson is what matters now n not me. she’s always saying anything difficult in my pregnancy is karma from what i put her through when she was pregnant with me..she says it’s just jokes but it’s been a weekly thing for months. im just tired of it. it’s like she’s never been pregnant before. i just wish she would be loving n comforting n calming to talk to. i haven’t really gotten to enjoy this pregnancy n it’s going to be my only one n it’s almost over. i feel alone enough without not having my mom as a positive part of this.
Crystal·
When I got pregnant at 18 my mom made me keep the baby as punishment not because she actually gave a shit about Melody. She still doesn’t care about Melody and can’t talk to her about my pregnancy because she doesn’t wanna talk unless it’s about her
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@crystal.newman, oh wow that’s messed up :/ i hope you have people you can talk to
Crystal·
@lavender13, just my hubs and he doesn’t even understand lol
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@crystal.newman, yea i learned not to expect a guy to understand any of this
Shae·
My mom does the same thing even though she’s my best friend she makes fun of me. I don’t like not having control over my body. I never did and when being pregnant there are aches and pains you can’t control and a little thing you can’t control. I can’t even ask her questions because she act like she doesn’t know. But she just say well my pregnancies were easy so I can’t help you.
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@motherof3nigerianprincesses, yupp same with my mom. and exactly i miss having control of my body n im so prideful i hate feeling so helpless and hurt n slow. i just wish she was more supportive cause the making fun is super irritating
Shae·
@lavender13, yeap I totally understand. But I’ve learn to try to block everyone out. I’ve done that since I was little though. Both my mom and sister say it’s about the baby. Im just like well I’m the one going through everything. And I’m alway curious about what causes certain things so I ask a lot of questions(i call it my scientist mind 😂)
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@motherof3nigerianprincesses, yeah i get u. im always researching everything about pregnancy n recovering etc. im less anxious when i feel more prepared (: and im realizing i gotta get back to blocking out the negativity as well. i just let my hope n expectations get the best of me sometimes
Shae·
@lavender13, whenever I’m having aches I’m come here to complain because I’m tired of being called a pussy. I stopped asking my mom questions. I only tell her when the baby moves when she’s around. And most of the time the other moms here are experiencing the same thing I’m having
Tashiana ·
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@motherof3nigerianprincesses, yeah this app really helps cause other people don’t really understand or try to most times
Shae·
@lavender13, it really makes me mad that my mom wants me to experience the pain
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@motherof3nigerianprincesses, same. she acts like it’s okay n she’s just joking but this is all she does. there’s no positive to make up for it so i’ve just been distancing myself
Shae·
@lavender13, yeah 😒 mine does the same. I wish she’d have a nice talk with me and tell me I can do it. But I just pump myself up because I’m my best motivator. My husband does good when I have my anxiety attacks but just think positivity into to world and believe you got whatever your body has going on that you got it!!
Tashiana ·
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@motherof3nigerianprincesses, im not the best at self motivating but this is a good chance to work on that some more 😌
Shae·
@lavender13, even though I’m married and have a wonderful husband I still tell myself I can do it by myself. I just tell myself it’s all for her. Find some good self motivating pregnancy videos. I start watching births and they actually got me excited instead of scared. I did cry like a baby watching them though lol
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@motherof3nigerianprincesses, that’s a really good quality to have. i’ve always had a fascination withbirth videos. n ill try the motivational videos thank you 😊
Shae·
@lavender13, when you grow up getting talked about you learn to block out negative and think positive(most of the time). I have a really strong idc about opinions(most of the time). But I’ve made the best decisions in my life so far so I don’t think I need anyone’s help with what I want to do
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@motherof3nigerianprincesses, i understand. i have that too. my mom is just my weak spot. i really didn’t expect this from her especially at a time like this. i’ll be better once i get past my disappointment
Shae·
@lavender13, I understand I love my mom but I block her ass out too 😂 I ask my friends and aunts and they tell me what they went through. They are usually the ones that tell me like it is and will tell me I’ll do fine
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@motherof3nigerianprincesses, lol im glad u have some support. it’s so important these days
Shae·
@lavender13, okay I’m about to eat and see if I can sleep. Have a nice night!
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@motherof3nigerianprincesses, im gona do the same (: you too