Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
I’ve posted about my defiant toddler many times before but I’m really at a loss now. She deliberately disobeys. Like, she knows what “no” means and if she’s doing something she knows she’s not supposed to I can ask “do you want to go in timeout?” And she’ll answer “no” and SOMETIMES stop.. I can’t take her anywhere cause she refuses to listen. She runs wild, screams, throws tantrums etc. At home she’s just as bad and absolutely nothing I do or say helps. Timeout doesn’t work, hand poppings don’t work, a pop on the butt doesn’t work, I’ve tried getting down to her level and calmly explaining things or trying to make sure she knows that I understand her emotions and things like that but I’m not even kidding when I say nothing works with her. I’m constantly telling her no and even though she knows she’s going to get into trouble she will do it anyways and then cream this blood curdling scream when she does get in trouble. I’ve raided Pinterest for days, write everything down, tried everything I found... idk what else to do. Everyone keeps telling me it’s “terrible twos” or “she’s just strong willed” or that it’s normal for her age and all of that might be true but there’s gotta be some kind of something that will help me teach her to listen to me and such.
Wvgirl·
Start trying time out and start taking toys away.
Gigi·
Мама дочки (1 год)
@danielswifey, how do I start time out? Sorry FTM. And my parents never did time out. Lol tells you a lot huh 😂🤦🏻♀️
Wvgirl·
@gigi.marquez1991 when she's bad put a chair in a corner facing the wall and put her there. If she gets up and starts crying which she will keep putting her back and turn the tv off so she can't even hear it.
Wvgirl·
@gigi.marquez1991 and start taking tv privileges away, if she hits you or someone else don't allow her to watch tv for a day or 2 and with any punishment explain why she is being punished.
Gigi·
Мама дочки (1 год)
@danielswifey, I will try and see how it goes. Hopefully this helps. I want to try and teach her before she gets older.
Wvgirl·
@gigi.marquez1991 sticking with it and taking her favorite toys away and taking tv privileges away from her will work.
Jessie Lauvray·
@gigi.marquez1991 I personally smack my child's hand and tell him no he's real big into hitting. I also do timeouts . I put my son in a play pen. No way will he ever sit in a chair no matter how many times I put him there lol I know some don't agree with spanking or smacking hands but my child has learned some what. It's not a hard smack just a love tap and say no that's not nice . Eventually he stopped doing it as much. He even tries hitting the doctors and other people too.
Moriah Kennedy·
I have the same problem.. 🙄😔
Jessie Lauvray·
His older half brother stands in timeouts and my son is even learning to stand in the corner at times. Sometimes when he's being funny I make him stand there. He throws a huge fit but I don't want him thinking its fun.
Moriah Kennedy·
@kasonsmama, not that I have a problem with smacking hands I just feel like I’m telling my son not to hit yet I’m hitting his hand so I try to not do that. I’m going to try the time out and take toys. So we will see!
Shayla Galloway ·
In my experience spanking is the way to go or a pop on the hand because she isn't going to listen. My kids are extremely stubborn so it's one of few ways to get threw. I had to start popping my daughters hand at a 1. You could always teach gentle and what it is. How to do it because my daughter get all those if she hits she is spoiled so she thinks it's only her way.. she started hitting lately again but I think it's because she knows a big change is about to happen.
Jessie Lauvray·
@moriahn.kennedy I understand what you're saying. Each parent has their own style. I've tried other ways and nothing worked. I found just taping his hand saying no works better for him. And the playpen works sometimes. For the longest time I just would put him down or walk away but as time went on he got worse. He still does it now just not as much as he did before.
Shayla Galloway ·
Also... Time outs.. talk to her and tell her what she is doing wrong. She maybe be little but she will understand. All major development happens before 5 so start early to teach what right and wrong is. Pintrest always has some good mommy articles about it how to teach kids to behave correctly.
Moriah Kennedy·
@kasonsmama, yeah, I get what your saying
Gigi·
Мама дочки (1 год)
@gallofamily.6, yeah I get that! But I’m just trying to exhaust all options before that. Hopefully she’ll get it with other tactics
Gigi·
Мама дочки (1 год)
@moriahn.kennedy, it’s really nerve recking because they’re growing now. So it’s like the tantrums and hitting all in one. Like damnnnnn. Lol
Gigi·
Мама дочки (1 год)
@kasonsmama, yeah she is starting to hit everyone. And she’s being mean while doing it. I’m like wth!! No one is mean to her! No one yells at her. I’m hoping it’s just her age.
Moriah Kennedy·
How do you get onto your child with out cracking a smile sometimes. The way he looks at me 🙄 damnit.... I’ve got to work on that
Gigi·
Мама дочки (1 год)
@moriahn.kennedy, lol! I know tell me about it! There’s times she chuckles cause she thinks it’s funny 😂
Jessie Lauvray·
@gigi.marquez1991 that's how my son is too. I'm assuming it's the age but it also should be taught it's a no no at a young age. Hopefully it passes. And yes my son makes the funniest faces or just gives me that look and I can't help but smile and give in lol