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I got a question for you ladies. My mother in law always wants to hold on to the baby but I don't want him to be held…

I got a question for you ladies. My mother in law always wants to hold on to the baby but I don't want him to be held all the time because I take care of my son like a single mother because husband works a lot of hours. So I want him to be on the floor more and on his boppy pillow because I work 8 hours and I have house choirs to do when I get home from work. Am I a bad person/ mother because I don't want him held all the time.

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db413

Dani BМама сына-младенца

@hmpjcp20143, you’re doing what you feel is right. As long as he gets held and cuddled for just a couple hours a day and isn’t screaming all day. He’s perfectly fine not being held.

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Heather PuhlМама сына-младенца

@db413 thank you

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hmpjcp20143

Heather PuhlМама сына-младенца

Thank you I was starting to feel like I was a horrible mother because she told me I was because I don't hold him enough. It is so hard doing everything on my own but I wouldn't change it for the world I love my son so much.

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db413

Dani BМама сына-младенца

Not at all!! Your child. Your rules. Give her a time limit. Tell her she can hold him for like 20 mins. But then he has to be on the floor to play for an hour or so. Tell her she can get on the floor and play with him too!

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