Single moms! I’m divorced, and my ex husband and I didn’t realize we were pregnant until after the divorce was done. I went through the pregnancy alone and he hasn’t done much more than visit our son occasionally and he dropped off a pack of wipes one time. It’s been hard, but I’m managing and recently I met an amazing man who treats me right and treats my son with so much love and devotion. We haven’t been together long but whenever topics arise regarding the future, marriage, kids, goals, etc, I get this panicky feeling in the pit of my stomach. I don’t know if it’s because I have abandonment issues from my previous relationship and I really don’t want to screw up and get hurt again or what. My biggest concern is my son and how much he seems to be bonding with my boyfriend. I don’t want him to be hurt either. I want stability for him. Has anyone else been in my shoes? Just looking to share experiences and seek some friendly advice. I want to remarry and have a family and raise my son in a two parent home. Am I just being overly cautious??
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It's definitely normal to be cautious and worried about your son and just everything in general. As far as the relationship goes I feel as though that there is always a possibility that things may or may not work out just like some relationships lead to marriage and some lead to broken hearts and tears. I would say to just take things slow really observe this man and really analyze if he's right for you... but I can say that from how it sounds it seems that he is on the same page and wants exactly what you want which is more kids and a happy marriage so that alone is a good thing.
As far as your son growing close with him I wouldn't worry to much. It's actually a good thing because your son needs to have a relationship with someone who you feel can potentially be your husband in the future. As long as your son knows that your boyfriend is not his father and your boyfriend respects your son's relationship with your ex husband everything should be fine.
Speaking from personal experience me and my daughter father are no longer together. However she is close with my boyfriend and he respects her relationship with my ex I haven't had any issues surrounding them bonding either.
I'm going through the exact same thing I don't think you're being overly cautious it's Normal to want to protect you and your son from hurt
No its normal i am also divorced inbox if you want or need to talk