I just had the worst argument with my fiance. It started out with me asking him if we could have a conversation about how he just continues to live his life as if we never had a baby while I'm stuck at home 99% of the time with the baby. This led to him yelling at me and calling me names (not cool), which made me yell and throw a toy (also not cool). I'm at a loss.... if I can't talk to him about my feelings, how will this work? Also, I'm 34 weeks pregnant with baby #2
That's true. I think if I were venting about something/someone other than him he would've been fine. 2 weeks ago I was stressed out about all that I need to do in my final months of grad school. He was so compassionate --he even asked what he could do to help and gave the baby her bath so I could have a break. I guess I was hoping for that guy when I told him I was tired with all the parental stuff I have going on.
@andrea328, yea, men tend to get offensive no matter how you come at them when it comes to criticism. You can come at him with open arms, baring gifts and he still probably would've raised his voice. He probably does feel bad about the situation but idk, some people just react differently towards criticism.I just don't want you feel like you've done anything wrong Honestly. You can't apologize for how you feel.
@mar_la thanks for your reply, this is helpful. I just hate that things escalated so quickly, I didn't even get a chance to finish my thoughts because he started sighing heavily, yelling, and saying "oh not this sh*t again". It has come up before, but this time I was really trying not to come at him in a way that would make him defensive. I guess I failed.
I wanna start off by saying don't feel bad for confronting your fiancé with how you feel. I am on the same page of being stuck at home 99% of the time with my son and on the verge of insanity. Being in that position and not having as much "freedom" as the men do, can be a lot on us. The fact that you spoke up instead of having it bottled up inside is a good thing. And don't stop now, he needs to realize that your happiness is important, your happiness is what keeps your household sane and right now, your not happy.