Is an overly affectionate and overly emotional 3 year old signs of something??? My daughter is…
Is an overly affectionate and overly emotional 3 year old signs of something???
My daughter is completely out of control. She BREAKS DOWN in tears when her uncle (my SO’s brother) walks by her room (which he does a lot cause of where his room is and where the bathroom is) and doesn’t stop to hug her. When she never even asked for hugs. She is CONSTANTLY CONSTANTLY CONSTANTLY asking for hugs and kisses. No matter how many times we give them to her. We thought it was a ploy to get out of trouble or get out of doing something she doesn’t wanna do. But she does it even when we aren’t telling her to do something. Which isn’t really an issue, until it is. It’s not just a random “Mommy I want hugs and kisses” it’s wanting hugs and kisses every few minutes. And from everyone. We aren’t a very lovey group of people, believe me, but we don’t deprive her of any kind of affection. I thought she needed boundaries so I started telling her things like “no sweetie, mommy doesn’t want a hug right now. We can’t MAKE someone hug you when they don’t want it.” Stuff like that. But it only got worse. And today she was hyperventilating because of how much she was crying. Why was she crying? Because I was bathing her and she didn’t wanna take a bath. When I got onto her for spitting out her water, she SCREAMED in anger at me. And ran through the hall screaming like a fucking banshee. Idk what to do. We’ve all had a hard year and tbh the only thing different is that things have actually calmed down and is slowly getting better. Emotionally, the house has been much better in the last month than it has been all year. But in the last few weeks, she’s gone completely insane.
Do I take her to the dr?? To a therapist?? I don’t know what to do. This is NOT her acting out because of her brother coming. It’s not. Her regressing in potty training and not listening.... that is her usual acting out. But this?!?! Please help me.
Erica Davis-Gupta·
Мама дочки (1 год)
This has a lot of similarities to how my daughter has been lately too I’m at my wits end
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@brianne I've heard that terrible 3's has nothing on terrible 2's!! I highly believe it. My daughter has been screaming as loud as she possibly can because she doesn't get her way immediately and asks for "huggys," to be cute, throws stuff at me and hits me...Loads of fun! Lol
Elena Lee·
Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего
If she isn’t doing it as a manipulative tool to get her way, ya know terrible three stuff, then I would think maybe she just really needs the extra emotional support right now. Has something changed in her life that would cause her to feel insecure about her world is some way? I know my 3 year old has gone through needy periods and I give him the cuddles and kisses he needs and he gets his confidence back and is back to his normal self soon. I’m no expert, but I think if she is being that insistent about it then she is asking for something that she really needs. If you can, maybe take a day and just cuddle and hug and watch movies together or something she really enjoys and just give her all your focus and attention and kisses. You can’t love on them too much and maybe it will help her get through this phase easier. Good luck.
Brianne·
Мама дочки (3 года), беременна (37 нед.)
@elenalee, well this year has been hard. But the last month or so has been pretty good. Which is why it doesn’t make sense why she’s acting out so extremely.
Elena Lee·
Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего
@brianne, it may take her longer than a month to feel secure again. I would try to give her all the hugs and kisses and cuddles she needs, even when she isn’t asking for them, she seems to really need that right now.
Brianne·
Мама дочки (3 года), беременна (37 нед.)
@elenalee, if that’s true it’s only gonna get worse. Her brother will be coming pretty much any day now. I’m due January 1st. And with the stress I’m under it’s a miracle I haven’t gone into labor already.
Elena Lee·
Мама двоих (1 год, 3 года), ждёт третьего
@brianne, you can only do what you can do. Who knows, maybe the baby will help! She may be a great little momma and love getting her cuddles from the baby too.