So I want to give my baby my boyfriends last name because I find it fair since he’s just as part of all of this as I am. My mother is disagreeing and said I am not giving my baby his/her fathers last name because we aren’t married and that I’m going to regret it if me and him break up so I suggested that I can do a hyphenated last name so my baby would have both me and the fathers last name but then my mom fights me on that too and says that it’s a pain to do that and that my kid will be teased and have to deal with writing them both out and stuff and I understand where shes coming from with the whole part if we break up down the line or whatever else but I also find it fair to give my baby the fathers last name and just hyphenate it. I love my mom but it’s annoying that she’s arguing me over it it’s my baby so I get to choose.. Am I wrong for this?
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I gave my 7 yr old his fathers last name. We are not together. I don't regret him having his dad's last name.
I have both my dad & moms last name hyphenated & I’ve never had a problem with it. My dad hasn’t been in my life since I’ve been 3yo but I still use his last name :) I’m also planning on giving my daughter both mine & hubbys last name :)
I have my daughter her father's and mine last name. They don't even have to write both last names if they don't (my bf has 2 last names and only uses one) to me it sounds like royalty lol to have a long name but do what you want cause it's your life and your baby no one had a day in that. Your an adult and do what you want cause you can girl ...good luck!
Your the one that fills out the birth certificate, it's your choice. Tell your mom to shut it. You could name the baby purple tree and she couldn't say anything lol do what you want
I agree with @damn.it.red, and it's also what I'm doing... even though my SO and I will most likely get married in a couple of years. Our little boy will take his last name. He's played a huge part in my pregnancy and is also the reason I haven't strangled anyone yet. 😂😅😂
@fasciamom, well of course if he’s a pos that doesn’t care for his child then no he doesn’t deserve to have a child carry his last name lol.
@fasciamom, thank you I mean you guys are right but at the same time I hate making my mom mad at me but she’ll get over it
@maurissaerhardt, honestly, you need to do what’s best for YOU. @damn.it.red and I can both tell you to fuck your mom, cuz that’s how we feel about ours lol. But in all honesty, do what makes YOU happy. She doesn’t have control over you in any way except her mental abuse toward you.
@brownsugarluv, because she thinks that if we break up and he decides to not do his part and leave our lives that I’m going to regret having the baby have his last name or if I were to meet someone else down the line and marry that person and have more kids with the other person that it wouldn’t be fair to my current baby to have a different last name 🙄
It’s your choice not hers it’s your baby do what you want
@fasciamom, that’s what I was trying to say to my mom but she wouldn’t take a listen or even consider my side she’s just set on no giving the baby the fathers last name at all but that’s why I was saying that I understand where she’s coming from if we break up or if he decides not to be a part of our lives but for now we are together and he’s super supportive and excited for the baby
@damn.it.red, I think this as well to an extent. If he’s a dead beat pos then he should have your last name. If y’all are together, and/or he is an involved father, the baby should have his last name. IF y’all break up and he becomes an uninvolved father, you can always change his/her name.
The way I see it is he is the father. The child should have his last name whether or not y’all stay together. It’s what’s right.
I should add, I am with my youngest twos father. They have his last name.