Definitely afraid of commitment... It's really rough to love someone who apparently loves you in return but can't commit to you and it's even harder to make a decision whether to stay or leave. I dated a guy once whom I was head over heels for, crazy in love with, and would kill for him if he asked. He said he loved me and cared about me but couldn't be in a relationship with me anymore because he apparently wasn't "capable". I made the decision to move on with my life even though it killed me to do so and to this day I still love him and he keeps saying how much he regrets giving me up and wants me back and everything but it's too late now and even that kills me. I wonder what if I waited a little longer to move on... a lot.

Sounds like he's afraid of commitment.

@morganmommy79, “why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” That’s what I thought of when I read your comment.

Looks like he wants to be with you but won't commit to the idea yet. I personally feel that some men will never "buy" what he can get for free. Wouldn't hurt him to put a ring on it. Why is he not ready if he's already playing the role? No need to rush things but when someone is hesitant to marry/commit after already playing the role for years what is it they're not committing to?

I was hesitant to marry after 3 years. I was afraid to commit because I wasn't sure how life would be with him since we argued so much. I wasn't ready to commit to that yet but finally did.

"Now watch you say something insecure" if my man ever had the audacity to say that to me we would be through. Id be like now watch me break up with your uncommitted ungrateful ass. 😔

Im in the same boat. Im not in a rush to get married and especially now since we just had a baby id hate to think that would be the only reason but yeh my bf and i been together for 2 years now. YES its been a rocky road even through the pregnancy but we always end up working it out...but its ummm should i stay with him and continue being a baby mamma? Has he not asked me because he sees this stuff in his family where they dont marry? I mean what is really the longest someone should wait marriage out? Ive heard different reasons why people wait but if he keeps telling me he loves me and all that then why not ask the big question? I think his excuse was marriage is just a piece a paper and its pretty much unnecessary...im glad i have no opinion lol geez, and id hate to break my relationship because of this but thats why i wish now that we got married first before having the baby....you got time for making babies but no commitment smh

Seem he is off with situation .. Careless or don't want it .. I say don't push it no more and just leave it as is .. Eventually things will turn out the truth how he feels .. How long you've been with him ?