RANT.... I know the majority of the pains and grossness and uncomfortableness, etc, is a part of being pregnant, especially at certain stages... I also know every pregnancy is different, even for the same woman... I ALSO know there's really no REAL way to tell you're in labor until it happens.. (for ME anyways!) ... But when you have a pain or WHATEVER that is completely different than you have had before (or at least can remember having!) And it just started happening, especially towards the end, does it not get you wondering??? Especially when you're already 3 ina half cm dilated and 90% effaced and don't want to chance dilating more and not knowing it until it's time to push or something!! Especially when your Dr tells you "since your so close and live so far away, if you feel ANY pain, come straight it, and whenever you do come in, bring plenty of towels just in case you have him in the car.) Uhm, what?! ... Okay so I don't want to go in if it's unnecessary because I have two toddlers that have someone to watch them when ITS TIME and only when it's time because this person has to put their life on hold (with their work, etc) to help out! Plus we just don't have the gas to be making unnecessary trips!!! But I also don't want to be in labor at home or have him in the car or chance ANY thing being wrong!!! So here I am freaking out, tripping and shit... So I call my Dr and let them know what all is going on and get told the same thing every time, "it's normal." "Let me know if this or that happens." "Come in if this or that happens. " "Come in when your contractions get closer together. "blah blah. Witch I have a history of my contractions not being too bad until it's time! But like I said, I don't have time to wait until it's time lmao!! It's so hard to explain, I just need to go to the hospital when it's time to have him, and have him, but unfortunately pregnancy is a mystery in any ways, especially the birth part (for me anyways lol.) So before anyone says to go in or call, keep all that in mind.. I most definitely will if it gets worse or doesn't go away.. but for now, I just don't know what to do, I'm completely lost here.. so anyone have any ADVICE?! I'm having lower stomach and back pain and pressure in my vagina area and hips, that come and go.. at times it will be in a pattern, at other times it won't be.. and feeling of needing to poop and sometimes can, sometimes can't.. and when all this is happening, it feels like the baby is ready to come out or something, but then once all this goes away I feel perfectly fine, but then it comes back and so on... Sometimes in patterns, other times not.. also to add to all that, I also get period like cramps and sharp pains in vagina and other pains that feel like diahrrea cramps!! What is all this and why is it happening and should I be concerned or what?!? Lol.. I've read it's normal, I've read it's bc ur dilating but normal, (my q their tho is if it means I'm dilating more should I be worried since I'm already at a 3 ina half or what??) , Does this mean it's time and I should go be seen??? I mean, wth lol. Long post and I probably sound stupid especially for someone who has had two children already.. but I have a memory problem as it is from a brain surgery I had so I can't remember having any of THESE pains, if I even had em at all.. my first kid, my water broke and that was my sign, my second kid, I went in for a Dr visit and was in labor, so I've never had like a "oh this is it, time to go" type of situation!!! Ugh :/ and everyone down to the Dr acts like I'm stupid (or at least I feel that way bc I feel stupid about it already lol) for wondering this and not knowing.. when the pain comes, I think "okay this is it" but when it goes away, I'm like "nah, your just tripping on every little thing bc u don't want to have baby in the car " lol!!