What can I do to punish my 2 year old? He's making messes on purpose, hitting, kicking, pushing, pulling, and just flat…

First of all, this kind of behavior is absolutely normal for two-year-old children. Two year olds have little to no ability to handle frustrations. They lack the verbal ability to articulate their feelings, and their little brains are still developing the ability to cope with frustrations. Babies and young children gradually learn to regulate their emotions after the age of three, but, until then, parents have to help them.

In this type of situation, the best defense is a good offense. In other words, you will need to anticipate situations for your son before he becomes frustrated. You can model empathy for him by acknowledging his feelings, stating that you know he is feeling mad or angry, and giving him the words to express his frustrations: "You don't like it when someone takes your toy from you!" or "I can see you feel mad when Mommy doesn't look at you." Try to anticipate and avoid stressful situations for him, and make sure he eats when he is hungry. Toddlers need to eat several times a day; hunger just adds to their frustration. Remember that toddlers are usually easy to distract, so see if he can be interested in something else by enthusiastically redirecting his attention.

I do timeouts when spankings or telling my daughter to stop does not work I do 2 minutes and I make her sit in her bed away from everybody and other and let her scream and wine as long as she's in her room and she stays there for 2 minutes because that's how old she is and then I go talk to her and tell her what she is doing is wrong and if she's going to calm down she can come out if not she can stay in there and cry and scream. I also let her know if she acts ups she will go back and get things taken away.

I make my daughter sit in the middle of my bed when she acts out. King bed and she has to just sit there until she stops acting out, whether it's a tantrum, disobeying, etc. She hates that punishment, so it helps. But also, they're going through the terrible twos. Stay consistent with your discipline and hope it gets better. 😫