I called my mom just so that she could put me down. I been doing great for the last couple of months…
I called my mom just so that she could put me down. I been doing great for the last couple of months and now I'm sitting here crying thinking I've fucked up my entire adult life. She criticizes me about how I didn't finish school bc I got married and pregnant. When the only reason I never enlisted in the navy back when I was 18 was bc she said no. The only reason I didn't go to UC Davis, was bc she said no. The only reason I started working the minute I was of legal age and haven't stopped until now, was bc she told me so. Now I'm sitting here crying feeling like a fucking failure & wondering if I'm even a good example for my daughter. I hate feeling like this. I've kept off my depression for so long and I've been keeping busy with house projects and looking at things with a positive scope that I've been whole. I really didn't need this now.
Jorja Green·
Мама сына-младенца
You are being the best mom to your daughter as you can, you're doing what's right for your family. As much as it sucks, fuck her. You have your own family now and you dictate how you live. Yes she is your mother, but you are now a mother and you need to do what's best for you and your family. My mom used to do this to me all the time and I finally told her if she was going to disrespect me and my husband she was no longer going to be a part of our lives. She snapped out of it very quickly. I passed up on so many opportunities because my mother said no, and I kick myself in the ass every day because I finally think "why?? Why can't I live my OWN life"
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@jsco, I keep telling her that if she's gonna be negative to stay away. And we even didn't take my daughter to see her for almost a month bc of this. She raised me as a single mother so my guilt (idk for what) always got to me and I ended up folding in. I'm trying really hard to break the cycle bc I don't want to do or be the same for my daughter. I kick myself in the ass everyday too. It sucks.
Jorja Green·
Мама сына-младенца
@sunflowerchildmamaa my mom was also a single mother and it's always "I want better for you than I had" while that's great and very thoughtful they go about it in all the wrong ways. The last time I was visiting her we got into a huge fight, and her husband finally said "who gives a fuck what your mom thinks. You're an adult. It's your life. Do what you want " obviously my mom wasn't very happy with him lol but it's so true. She's not the dictator of your life anymore. If you're happy with how your life is then peefect! If there's something you want to change because YOU want to then do It! It's not anyone else's life but your own ❤
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Yessss. My moms kinda old school too so we bump heads a lot. Thank you so much mama for your words! ❤️