So I need some help. I think I need to take back control of my relationship. We've been together for years but this year is the first year that I'm not working at all. Long story short I think the relationship is basically over or it needs a huge change to push it in a different direction either way I think I need to get back into the position of "power".... and I just don't really know where to start. I don't know what to start looking for first a new job? A place to live? Child care? It's not that I'm scared to do it I just really don't know how to get started. I guess my thinking is if I'm not dependent on him then I can emotionally decide whether I really want to keep fighting for this relationship or if I'm just currently fighting for it because I feel like it's my only option. I refuse to be stuck so I'm going to do something about it question is what...