Okay so me and my boyfriend are arguing because I haven't been in the mood for sex because the pain that I'm having in my stomach I'm always nauseous my belly is huge and uncomfortable and I just haven't really been feeling well and I'm not in the mood and he's saying I should be saying sorry for not having sex with him and that I'm being selfish and that he holds me to having sex with them what would you think if your boyfriend said that to you? Any also says that I'm lying about not feeling well and that he doesn't trust me.
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@sadiesue0718 I agree with u, just give his ass some head and if that's not good enough for him then O-WELL sounds like a personal problem!
That really pissed me off..fuck him is wat I say.. My man does the same...
I get that too but because it's our first pregnancy I don't know how to control my emotions and end up way rude. Just keep telling him it will pass. And it's not fair to hold you too it. It's your body and your growing a human and no one but you knows what your body feels like every pregnancy is different even for the same girl so unless he's in your head tell him to buzz off let him get mad the whole thing will pass once you get your sex drive back :)
I agree with the comments above, even if he was your husband, you say no, it’s rape! Saying he doesn’t trust you about not feeling well shows he has trust issues with you no matter what. If he thinks it’s not ok for you to have feelings, that’s not ok...
When I wasn’t pregnant and hubby wanted something but I was on my period, he would get a lil something something. But that’s because I wanted to give it, felt good, and it was a reward for him treating me nicely. If I didn’t feel well, he didn’t push it. It’s been the same now I am pregnant. Maybe bring this into the conversation with him and say it’s not that you don’t find him attractive, it’s that you honestly don’t feel well. Use “I” and “me” statements instead of passing blame with “you” statements. And always tell how it makes you feel. “When you say these things, it makes me feel ____”
With my daughter we went almost 3 months not having sex because I was so nauseous, and sick all the time. Later in my last trimester we didn’t have sex because my hubby was uncomfortable with it. I then had a very hard delivery and we waited almost 8 weeks to have sex again... the plus side of this is he has a low sex drive, so he wasn’t on me. The bad part is I have a high drive, but was afraid of the pain...
Never let him make you feel bad that you don't want to have sex. You should not have to have sex with him just because he wants to, it is not up to him. What reason do you have to fake not feeling well? That's just dumb. You're in your third trimester of pregnancy, of course you don't feel well. Idk what his problem is but you should have a conversation about his attitude about sex or it's going to get worse.
Controlling. Keep in mind if ge EVER forces you and you tell him 'No' even once, that is rape.
I'm happy you guys understand. He's always done this when I wasn't pregnant, when I had my gallbladder removed he did the same thing. and at first he was understanding and it was nice, but now I'm kinda worse, I still get sick all the time, I have to see a GI specialist next week because of my acid reflux, absolutely NOTHING is helping it, my doctor and OB have tried everything, they think I may have GERD. I'm already waddling and walking slow because my belly is bigger than it should be because I have a distended belly from constipation and gas, I can't breathe, I have to constantly take breaks and sit because my belly is so heavy, but I ordered a belly brace from Amazon and it had good reviews, because a lil under my belly button I have horrible pain with every move I make and my OB says that's common with women who've had 2 or more kids, she said my muscles down there are shot, and they're struggling to hold the weight of the baby and everything. Sorry guys for the rant, I don't really have anyone to talk to that can kinda relate to my issues. Thanks guys..