LADIES AND MARRIED WOMEN OR SOON TO BE PLEASE I NEED AS MANY AND AS MUCH ADVICE BEFOR HE GETS HOME TO PICK ME UP PLEASEs i need help/advice its a birthday party and theres gonna be drinking!!! ok im scared. Ok todays my hubbys bosses bday. Ok usually befor i was prego we always sat and had a few beers.i just need to get out of this house im getting claustrophobic.. Well since then iv lost my liscens temp til i pay a fine. And hes already driving without a liscens. So and let me add we ride a 2 wheel vehicle. And. Yes i know its not safe for pregnant women but its all we got and my man is real good friends with the boss and if i dont go to keep his drinking level down. Cuz he already has court in dec for driving and is all freaked out they may put him in jail and he will miss the babys due date. Should i remind him everytime he wants to drink. That it aint just his life hes risking. Hes risking mine and the babys. And is it wrong for me to keep telling him that to keep him not drinking. Cuz i dont mind if he has a beer when we get home but driving with a suspended liscens and drinking too ya i cant be bailing him out when i got my own legal shit going on. He came home a week ago saying he only had one beer first he lied said none. I smelt it i mean my moms a x alciholic so come on i know a bullshitter when theyre drinking. Well what should i do. I have no choice but go with. But when im there do u think its rude to keep rubbing the baby and me in his face cuz we both have been in savere motorcycle accidents he recently broke his colar bone. Its healed but i snapped my neck. Different accidents of course. But right now motorcycles are all we can drive due to we dont have regular liscens. And letme tell u first ok we both quit smoken weed back when i found out i was pregnant. And well.. Its been so hard my mentle medication iv also stopped which im bipolar. And have very bad depression like cut the wrist depression.. I aint done it since i was 17. I cut my wrist befor u went to drug rehab i actually cut in the office because they said they wouldnt take me cuz my insurance i said well fuck it insurance and moneys all this world spins on and i sliced my wrist and now i cant use half my left hand. But back to the main point im asking yes im mentally fucked uo right now and hormoans flying sky high. At a day away from 16w. Well im freaking out in my mind wondering what if he wants to drink. His boss and wife are Mexican and awsome. But they do drink and not just a little. And i beleive if ur drinking then ur staying at that persons house. And unless he can stay the night and magicly get me home then i wouldnt care. But tomarrow he has a first day off in weeks. And i need that time.. Hes been soo sweet lately buying me a roze and just being so sweet and appriciateive of all the work iv been doing around the house. Ladies tell me ur opinion please!!
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@tyrellp ya brendon dont want me riden it no more so he took my keys... He had his friend drive and take us home im so proud at how the nite came out and so proud of him
Hes letting me drive. And he aint drinking and were only staying for the big dinner and cake. He told his boss that he has his unborn child and future wife to worry about that we will leave early by 9. So i think im satisfyed thanks ladies. U helped me alot!
Thanks everyone u guys have helped me alot in this decision. I didnt have to rub it in his face he walked in and befor i went to speak i guess he knew what i was gonna say... Lol cuz he put a finger over my lip and kissed me and said baby im not gonna drink and risk my familys life i love u and our baby so much he said that the bday party is only 3miles away and i can drive home. So and my bike only goes to 60mph thats like with 1 person but there will be 2 so we should be safe right. Im happy hes never letme drive the bike. But he said hes noy risking jail no more he has to step up and be that man to take care of the baby and that he loves me and we got to do this together. He said if it wasnt for me well first he said last nite and i found out i talked to my mother in law shes soo sweet and she said that shes never seen her son say the love word. And buy a ring that is more then 4 months of his paychecks. So and now hes wanting to push the wedding befor the babys born. Im amazed hes been here by my side. Cuz i have bipolar outbrakes and get violent. But hes been here and by my side over 110percent he holds my hair and rubs my back every time i get sick. He really has stepped up since the dr said this is our only chance at being parents cuz they got to perform surgury and theres a tumornthe size of a golf ball right in middle of both ovarys and they dunno how i got prego bur they said rite after c section i got to have my tubes tied not by choice and whenxhe herd this is gonna be our only child he cried and idk he changed that day. Im crying posting this. Cuz u ladies is all i got. Were strugglen so bad right now. And his boss has helped us with food. And rides to the baby dr cuz his boss said if im nashuas tonite he will have his wife drive us home. And thats so comforting to know cuz im a day from 16w and got hyper emesis still!they said id not go past the 1st trimester boy they were wrong im sorry i am adhd and all over the place please forgive me
@avahcruz well his boss brags that hes mexican he buys a keg of corona and its his mexican blood. Thats just why i said that. But shit now days it aint a race thing. Im irish and american indian so and i see what ur saying thats like someone saying oh ur irish lets drink. Well in ireland the drinking age is low. But i got liver cancer. So i cant drink ever. My drinking days were killed way befor they even started. So im just having anxiety highly and hormoans lol but thanks for replying i appriciate it
@jade2017 he told me that were gonna just be there for dinner and cake he actually said he didnt even want to drink.. That means soo much. That kinda makes my worrys go out the window. And see if i dont drive then i will be up all nite wondering if he got pulled over and even if he dont drink he still will go to jail. He said that its only 3 miles away. And i can drive. So im proud of him for being a man befor i could even say well me and the baby. He beat me to it. He said babe i remember what u said. He said word for word. I dont want to loose my family. U and our baby is all i got and no beer is gonna come in between us i love u. And he said we will leave befor they even start to drink so i dont got to be around drunks. So i think hes finally stepping up!!
@believeinbuddha i lost my dad on a harly davidson he got hit by a drunk driver... I lost my sister and she got hit by a drunk driver. See my mom is a 9yr recovering alciholic. Ive been sober since i was 17. And my drug was the demons blood in my veins. But look he told me he wont drink he promised and assured if i do let him. Then he will let me drive which im super comfterable with driving and im proud he is willing to let me drive because this is the first time hes ever let me drive. Im legal on motorcycles. But my dr said once i get 20weeks theres no way in hell i can be on one. So and dont worry my bike my dad befor he passed he did the engine where its a only 100 cc it only goea 60mph AT the fasteST but it wont go that far if two peoples on it.
I wouldnt go with him. Put yourself and that baby first. I am married been married for almost 4 years. He should be understanding of your feelings if you told them to him and needs to be mature about drinking. I dont think its wrong for you to keep bringing yourself and the baby up "rubbing it in his face" because that is whats important in the end. Not a night of partying.
It’s not wrong to let him know he’s endangering yours and your baby’s life. If you’re not comfortable with him drinking and driving especially on a 2 wheel vehicle then you have the right to speak against it, and your husband should understand that and care enough to refrain from drinking. Also being Mexican doesn’t have much to do with how much someone drinks.
A couple things; first, there's no such thing as an "ex" alcoholic, once an alcoholic always an alcoholic but you can be sober. Second, your man sounds like an alcoholic. He needs to stop drinking and driving because that's how countless lives are lost every year. He's putting both of your lives at risk and you are just as much at fault if you get on a motorcycle with someone who is drunk. If you want to be safe stay away if he's going to keep drinking and driving.
Thanks everyone for ur advice concerns and so forth u guys got us to go safely we got a sober friend to drive us
And no body started drinking until we left they said its not fair to us because we all used to sit and have beers they said like u guys said this is our only chance ever to have a kid. Cuz of the surgury there doing after c section. My tubes are being tied due to a tumor in my ovarys and with chemo treatment they had to post pone everything but they said who wouldnt when its ur only opportunity and its a mirical baby so its a rainbow baby and im so blessed to have u ladies to talk to thanks for not downgrading me alot of moms on heres been mom shaming me. Ima first time mom never been prego except onece and selena passed. It was deeply painful but i don't wana get emotional cuz we had a great nite. U ladies all have a blessed evening and thanks so much for all ur advice u made me decide that if we aint getting a ride then were doing cab. Cuz brendon thought on it and when i updated to him how far i am he snatched my harly keys up and said im sorrybaby but i care way to much about u and our peanut he calls baby peanut i call it jelly bean but it showed he really truely cares. Hes like omg u said ud stop riding at 2nd trimester ((he aint ever had a kid so he aint familiar with when first trimester enda and stuff. But thanks every1 i appriciate it again have a blessed evening xoxo-cheyenne