@armyvet_working_mom_of_4 that is awesome. And may everything work for the betterment

@lana30319, what I mean by all this is, you can’t focus on the past. You can learn from it, and all. You can’t dwell on what has happened, because you can miss out on what is gonna happen. I have made a lot of changes to my life and myself, and like I said my past was not the best. But my mom and I both worked hard to get where we are now, and my moms pass was worse than mine.

@lana30319, that’s all you can do grow and learn.

I can't relate to your story. But I am learning as I grow. And for me just a few years ago I finally forgave my mom. She was physically abusive to all her men. And wanted complete control. And that ran my father off. Then I felt she would use me to flirt with men. She taught me how to be verbally abusive to my dad. When he called she would tell me to "let him have it"! I use to curse folks out as she still do at a drop of a dime. Family nor friends bothered to come to our house for anything. My family had nothing but negative predictions on my life. They didn't hesitate to tell either.

@lana30319, that is true. Use as an advantage, to make yourself better. It more for people who blame their past on their futures, when we have a choice on what we want to do. I grew up with a single mom, dad wanted nothing to do with me, molested by my stepdad, and then some. Not one person would known if I didn’t say. But I agree with your comment whole heartedly. 🙂

That is deep! Just keep in mind (my opinion) where you came/struggle from to ensure you don't go back to the way you were. So no matter how terrible your past was it did make you stronger into the woman you are? And you can use what you have been through as your testimony and thank God for what he has allowed you to go through. And for what is to come.