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Ranisha Barrow
neat_neat2
Ranisha Barrow·Мама дочки (7 лет)
Really sad that the Navy is making my husband go on deployment in February, when that’s when our first child will be born.... he’s gonna be gone for 5 months and won’t see her until June. My feelings are so hurt. He won’t be there for birth or any of it. I know it comes with the job I’m just ranting. I am thankful that he’s been to every appointment but I rather him be there for our daughters birth 😞😞
17.10.2017
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neat_neat2
Ranisha Barrow·Мама дочки (7 лет)
@breloya, yes imma have to rush her a little if I can if not I’ll get my sister to video tape it for him so at least he’ll get a chance to watch
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breloya
Brea·Мама двоих (7 лет, 9 лет)
38 weeks, start bouncing on that yoga ball and going on extra long walks. I know baby comes when baby is ready, but a little push won't hurt lol.
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neat_neat2
Ranisha Barrow·Мама дочки (7 лет)
@breloya, ahhh man I can say I’m grateful that he’s been here throughout the whole pregnancy but has a chance to miss the most important part. I told him 38/39 weeks I’ll be okay if she comes then plus she’s measuring a couple days bigger so hopefully it’ll be in a favor and she comes a week or two early. But she’s already showing signs of stubbornness so then again Idk, I would be so mad if she comes on the 23rd when he’s leaving lol . But as long as she remains healthy I’m okay I have no other choice but to be.
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breloya
Brea·Мама двоих (7 лет, 9 лет)
Oh damn. 😔 that sucks and since he's new at the command, they're probably definitely not going to let him miss this deployment. And you don't have to apologize. I know how it is. My husband missed my entire first pregnancy because he was always underway. His ship was always out to sea. Then right when my daughter turned 3 months, he deployed for 7 months. Then that deployment got extended. He didn't see her again until she was about to turn 1. It's hard, especially with a baby, which is why I got out of the Navy myself before starting a family.
I hope your baby comes a few days earlier, shoot even a week early. 39 weeks is still far enough for a completely healthy baby. And in your case, I can definitely understand wanting to give birth a tad bit earlier.
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neat_neat2
Ranisha Barrow·Мама дочки (7 лет)
@breloya, It’s different because he’s suppose to be on shore duty, so that’s why we decided to have a child now, and he works at balboa medical center/hospital and it’s connected to a ship so he’s been selected to go on this 5 month deployment he’s put in a requests not to go because of the simple fact he wants to see his child born also being that he’s only been at this place for 7 months I guess he doesn’t really have the pull or people so it’s like really frustrating because I don’t have any family in California so I’ll be alone with the baby for 5 months and no help. Then being a first time mom is extra scary. Sorry I’m ranting I’m just uggggh right now
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breloya
Brea·Мама двоих (7 лет, 9 лет)
Put in a leave chit super early with the reason why. He could even talk to his chief, etc. I had a cool CO and you could talk to him on a personal level, but I don't know how his CO or chain of command is. But I'd say to put in a chit for leave to start around Feb. 21 or so for a week. Like I said, it isn't a guarantee, but it doesn't hurt to try.

That, or ask for an elective induction or c section. I wouldn't usually recommend that, but it would be so sad for him to deploy a few days before his child is born.
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neat_neat2
Ranisha Barrow·Мама дочки (7 лет)
@breloya, how would it work? He leaves the 23rd of Feb and my due date is the 26th of Feb. Idk it’s confusing hopefully she comes a little early before he leaves that’s my best bet for right now
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breloya
Brea·Мама двоих (7 лет, 9 лет)
It's possible that he could try to take leave and then get flown out to the ship. It isn't guaranteed, but worth a shot. I've even worked with a few who were able to fly home for a week during deployment when their wife gave birth.
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neat_neat2
Ranisha Barrow·Мама дочки (7 лет)
@txyogagirl, no they’re not really all that understanding , I wish they were
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txyogagirl
Leah·Мама сына (8 лет)
@neat_neat2, I feel for u I thought they were u understanding? I would be sad too
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