This might sound really stupid or petty but I've gotta say it somewhere because it's eating me up.
I get so jealous when I see parents buying their children so many nice things for Christmas and their birthdays, me and my OH have been saving for over a year and we've barely got money for rent! I had to sell my computer the other day because Brendons pushchair broke he needs size 6-9 next month clothes AND a high chair. Then there's Christmas in a few months, we're struggling so much but then there's people who don't even work and they somehow are managing just fine and can buy their babies all sorts! Maternity pay is awful and my OH is doing overtime everyday, I'm having to go back to work 2 months early which I really don't want because I don't wanna miss anything with Brendon.
Sorry it's all just super stressful and bothering me 😔😩
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I think a lot of families go through this and it does suck. However your babies so young they really don't know or care about Christmas. Even next year they won't have a clue. We've really cut back on birthdays and Christmas because people go overboard and forget what Christmas is all about. Now I just hope that we're all healthy & well! If people want a spends hundreds on presents that's fine but it's not what our children remember or even what they want or need.
First year of us having a baby we were literally just scraping by I think we managed to pull together £50 to get Brody presents and he was like 7months and didn't have a clue what was going on anyway 😂
Plus kids when there young don't care as long as they have your time and attention. Things can get better, were 3years on from our first child and in a completely different situation now and still don't go mad on buying things as it's not about that to me. Dont judge how good a parent you are by what you can't buy, your providing a home and a family and you can't put a price on that 👌
I know your little'un is still young but set up family traditions instead? Like we all get new pjs and a film on Christmas Eve, and we bake gingerbread decorations for the tree etc.
Also don't be afraid to shop charity shop for baby clothes ! One by me does each item for 10p and they've barely been worn/brand new and they grow so quick anyway :) that way the more expensive stuff has a bit of an ease with spending less on clothes:)
I know how you feel too babe ! Just to let you know asda have a high chair in at the minute for 8quid! I'll see if I can take a pic of it on my way out of my shift but I thought that was good considering months ago we spent like 40quid for one !
Hun you have to remember that Christmas isn't about the gifts. It's about the family time and food 😂 presents they won't even remember. And I think spending time together watching films and cuddling is so much more worthwhile. Don't beat yourself up. It's better to bring up a loving child who appreciates what his parents are doing for him then a spoilt one who gets unnecessary gifts. Try not to worry too much. Do what you can x
I no how u feel I am the same i get jelouse but u can only do what u can do I work my partner works full time I have 3 kids and we struggle to pay r rent the price off living is so much now !! All u need to provide is love a warm home n food is his belly aslong as he has a few presents its not about how big the pile is
Iv never over done my kids ever they get a few bits and a main pressi! Don't put ur self down ur doing all u can petal xxx
Ah we've all been there we are struggling at the mo but u are struggling more. I second the charity shop idea. You can get stuff with the tags on or that looks brand new just give them a wash. As for Christmas ur little one won't understand that much. I like to go overboard but he won't know any different. He will probably like the wrapping paper and boxes more xx chin up hope you get sorted xx