My boyfriend and I are getting a place together soon. He has a 4 year old (possibly) autistic daughter. I'm so scared…

@ravens_mommy well i wasn't coming off the wrong way if that's the way u took it i was saying basically u have to find a solution to the problem because that is his child at the end of the day just as if it was your kid thats all im saying

@michelle52129 I never saw your comment until now. Read above comments. I have a right to be afraid for my child's safety when a kid twice her size is pushing and kicking her. I've been with this man for 2 years, I've known his daughter since she was 2 years old. I'm the one that convinced him she needed help and helped him with his denial. I'm not ignorant. I've done my research and I've lived with a child that had autism before in my life when my mom was a foster parent.

@ravens_mommy ok, good. Mine follows me into the bathroom

@cbrebelkat Oh I don't. Most they are "alone" together is when I use the bathroom but even then I leave the door open.

@mommabear538 Yes.

All I can say is, Never leave the kids alone together.

@ravens_mommy, can we pm?

@tamerabang @mommabear538 Well like I said I have defintely done a ton of research. Probably more than her parents and I'm just the girlfriend of the dad. I'm the one that has continued pushing my boyfriend to make her mom get her tested. She's fine with my niece (8) and my little sister (6) but it seems like she hates my daughter and myself. She's nonverbal so it's not like I can ask her why she's so mean to her.

Would she pick up on others' emotions towards me and my daughter? Because my boyfriend's mom does not really like me and it is pretty obvious, as is the favoritism between her grandkids. Boyfriend's daughter does not act out nearly as much with me if grandma is not around, but if she is I can't even be in the same room with her without her screaming and freaking out.

@ravens_mommy, I was not trying to offend you, I wasn't trying to sound condescending at all... I am terribly sorry for coming off that way!!! I am in your shoes I am raising my 14 year old cousin who is autistic and he has been very hateful to my 10 year old son but not my younger kids. We're actually seeing a behavioral counselor for it an she comes to us in Thursdays.

I never meant to be condescending at all and I'm sorry if I came across that way.. I am in your shoes I have been raising my 6 year old grandson with autism since he was 4 months old I was honestly just trying to reassure you that it does get better in time the more you learn together..

@tamerabang @mommabear538 Both of your comments are very condescending and I don't appreciate that. I have done my research, I'm the reason the child is getting tested in November. Until either of you are in my shoes and have spent time with this child do not speak to me like I don't know anything. She is extremely smart, therefore I refuse to believe she doesn't know what she is doing is wrong. She was very loving with me until she was told there was a baby in my belly, after that she would kick my stomach and she has been nothing but mean to her sister so I have a right to be afraid for my child's safety.

@mommabear538 @tamerabang i agree 100% .......you have to learn to deal with it either way your his girlfriend so please do your research!

I agree with @tamerabang, you should do your research. She's not trying to be mean, She just doesn't understand what she is doing wrong. Autistic children are actually very loving and smart!

Don't be scared or anxious, autistic children don't want to be mean or hurt others they are just wired a little differently. I feel it would be worth your while to do some research on autistic children and learn how to communicate with them and learn to understand their communication and actions it is so worth it. They can be the most compassionate and loving children..give it a shot u won't regret it and both children will thank u..