I know the decision comes down to what I want, but I’d like some opinions. I was planning on giving my child my last…

Yeah I feel like you should give your baby your last name, no matter how much he begs and pleads(:

I say if the daddy is involved in the baby’s life then go ahead & give it to the baby. But if he will be the type to be in or out of the baby’s life not helping you raise him/her is give the baby your name

@mamaofacountryboy, that’s the part that stumps me. He has a 3-year-old daughter with his ex-girlfriend and he’s more invested in this phone than his own child. He didn’t even have a job for the last two years of her life. I am the reason he finally got a job...

@rach.robinson and @scx327, we find out the gender in less than 2 weeks and I’m dreading telling him no if I end up having a boy. I hate confrontation!

@swdemopulos1, you know him best. My SO when we split up for awhile he was still there for our son & getting him what he needed my BFF soon to be x-husband isn’t around he’s to busy cheating to even see his kids.

I don’t know yalls situation so you just have to trust your gut on this one.

You don’t want to give him the name & he’s never around to even know who his father is but same sense if he’ll be a great father there’s no hurt & letting him have the name

@swdemopulos1 give the baby your last name. If you're already feeling this way and you give the baby his last name, he has rights to the child that you might regret later on. Y'all aren't married so there is no obligation for the baby to have his last name. Do what's best for the child not the father. Its the child's future and well being you need to look after, not what a man wants.

@juliaschade41, that’s exactly what my mom’s been telling me. She regrets giving my sister and brother their dads last name. She only did it because she felt obligated.

@swdemopulos1 no don't feel pressured or obligated. Its your right, your decision. You're the mom. If he wants to prove himself and y'all get married then may be you can consider it in the future....but now would not be a good idea.

I agree with the ladies. If he’s involved in the pregnancy/child and is a good father then give him the last name. If he’s a deadbeat dad then nope. Give the baby your last name. Your the mom you have the right to do what is best for you and the baby

@mamaofacountryboy, you’re right. Also, his daughter has his last name, he’s always threatening to take her away from her mom. She’s a great mom too! I became friends with her after while. Thank you for your help!

Thank you all for your input. You all helped me a lot!

If you aren't married the child should have your last name. No matter if he is providing or not . That's my opinion.the last name shouldn't make him stop providing for his child

Do what's right, and to me it sounds like you've already made up your mind, personally, I gave my oldest son his father's last name and have regretted it since the day I did it, his father's never been there for him, no Christmas presents, no birthday presents, no phone calls or emails or Facebook, jacka$$ actually blocked my whole family the day I had him... my oldest Son, Aiden is now 10 years old and knows of the man who "donated his sperm" but never met him. I hope this helps you, just remember not all men are the same and he may be a good dad, but generally how they are during the pregnancy is how they will be after the pregnancy

@swdemopulos1, in that case I’d say no I wouldn’t give the baby his name.

He can still fight for rights & take the baby if he’s on the birth certificate but I wouldn’t give the baby his name if he’s that way

I’ve already made the decision to not put him on birth certificate.

- My fiancé recently broke up with me, he doesn’t want kids.. I’m changing my name to my mother’s maiden name, and that’s the name my son will have .. ultimately it is up for you. There is no wrong answer. But for me it’s important my kids share the same name as myself ..

UPDATE!!!

I called him and let him know it was bothering me that he was wanting the baby to have his last name even though I’m the one going through the pregnancy, labor, etc.

He understood and didn’t fight me in it. The baby is officially getting my name! 😊