What am I supposed to do when someone keeps disrespecting you, keeps doing whatever THEY want to do, and parenting my…

@nicolem10021 he sounds just like my 10 year old son

And my son is very much Adhd and extremely hard to control when he's off his medication and looses focus every 2 minutes. And he can't handle it sometimes. He thinks differently. My son is a lot like me when I was that age so I feel for him and try to understand with him. He is still like me when it comes to personality wise. When he can't handle it I just wish he'd let me parent him. I can't handle it sometimes either but I never quit and walk away from him mumbling something making my son more stressed and feeling left. I deal with it because I love him

@mommabear538 he freaks out if I say "my son" or anything like that because he sees him like his own child and treats him that way. Which I understand that and I love that, but he also has to understand I don't want my child raised a certain way. Even the one he's about to be the biological father of. It's just what it is.

@nicolem10021, but that doesn't work on every kid. Especially a kid who didn't have it before boyfriend came into the picture. If talking didn't work, personally I'd give my husband ultimatum if he tried that with my 10 year old who is not biologically his.

@mommabear538 boyfriend who's like a father role model. I do talk to him about it but he either steps back completely after awhile. Then when he thinks I need help he'll jump in or he'll ask if I need his help. But when it all comes down to it he'll flip out and say he's scared of even parenting mateo because of me. That happens at least once every 4 months or so. It used to happen so much more. He just thinks his way is right all the time because he has 2 kids that are 15 and 17. Not biologically his but he took care of them till recently. So we get in arguments about that sometimes. I feel he compares my son to his kids. And I hate that

Is it your husband/boyfriend or mom/MIL? It sounds like maybe not a temperament issue but that's the way they were parented so thats what they are going to Do? But I definitely agree with @tyrellp, have a calm talk and discuss what you are both comfortable with, going to sleep is no reason to try and "discipline" a child like that. Yes I used quotations because thats what most people who do that say it is. There are non-abusive ways to get a child to do what you want them to, so you don't have to result to popping them in the thigh.