So. Kind of a long rant. But me and my s.o have been together for a while now. And it just seems like the spark is…
So. Kind of a long rant. But me and my s.o have been together for a while now. And it just seems like the spark is completely gone. The physical as well as emotional /mental seems disengaged. He doesnt look at me. Doesnt make and effort whether its sexual or emotional. I have a 3 year old which hes accepted as on of his own. Which is amazing. We have a hectic house seeing as my sister, her 2 kids as well as her bf live with us. My son goes to.his dads thurs-sun so theres no such thing as no 'us' time but nothings there. I feel like i put in all the effort ans it always gets shut down. No matter what kind of effort.
Anyone have any insight or ideas on how to rekindle those aspects of a relationship?
Lisa·
Мама троих детей
Well in your free time go out with friends and seem busy.. when ppl get comfortable they become mundane sometimes.. just look like your enjoying life without him.. take care of yourself hair nails.. buy a few new articles of clothing and look like you have everything under control. Do not initiate intimacy.. there is such things as self pleasure etc... He will surely change his tune 😉 don't seem his attention either.. don't look for compliments either.. show confidence and shut him down when he wants to get intimate a few times.. men are hunters by nature and women gatherers so make him hunt you down from time to time.. hope that helps 😉 @arden.mc
arden·
I do go out with friends. He encourages it. I work full time, and take care of my son as well as my youngest niece. By the time im home i just wanna go home and be with him.
I've bought clothes and have showed him, nothing.
Him and i JUST went through a two month dry spell regarding sex because he didnt want to make the effort. And when i tried he shot me down because apparently ' always do it to hin'
Just frustrated.
Lisa·
Мама троих детей
Yea you need to ignore him for a bit.. when it comes to that department... Let him come to you..
Ashi Ducharme·
I went off on mine. Got a sitter for the kids and let him know is specifically for us to have time together. He said a friend was coming over for a bit. No big. His friend comes over....end up spending the night. I snapped the next morning(tears and all) cause it will be god knows when we'll have another chance. He went and had me ask the sitter to watch the kids one more night so we could do dinner and a movie. He's been super attentive eversince
Candice·
Have you tried going on a date ? Try and rekindle things that way
arden·
We had it planned last weekend. But he post poned to this weekend. And now hes talking about post poning it again.