My son's birthday party is Saturday. My SD is not allowed to participate in the party because she's…
My son's birthday party is Saturday. My SD is not allowed to participate in the party because she's grounded for the horrible things she's been doing lately (took a razor to her brother's head, put machine oil in my shampoo, slapping her brother in his face). Her mother is pissed because it's not fair that my SD has to miss my son's birthday party. She says we should take away Halloween instead. That's over a month away. Why should she be punished for something she did a few days ago that far down the line?? She wouldn't even remember what she did by that point! She also lost all of her toys, she has to earn them back one by one. She earns them back with good behaviour. 24hrs without showing her ass she gets a toy back. The mom says that's not fair either because "that just shows her she can be as bad as she wants and still get her stuff back for being good for a day". All this from the woman that GAVE me her kid!
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If your SD is with yours legally her mama has no saying how you raise or deal with the daughter. How old is the child? Sometimes when kids are hurting emotionally about something they retaliate doing horrible things. Maybe if you try slowly to talk to her and tell her that she is loved she will start acting differently. Me personally I would get her checked with a psychiatrist. To see why she behaves so bad and what's really making her act so bad. That's just my opinion though. At the end of the day it's your decision.🌻😊
Julia Boles·
Мама троих детей
@corazon she's 9yrs old. She's in intense trauma play therapy once a week. She's says she's doing bad things to get into trouble so she won't like our house so much. She feels guilty for liking our house and us more than her mom. While we understand her thinking, we can't let this behaviour go unpunished. But she still likes our house better and she says this is a fair punishment.
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@tiredmom Then trust your heart to do what you believe is right. Don't even pay mind to her mama. If she was great at parenting she would have her kid to raise herself not given her to you. You're doing great & stick to your methods.😊
Julia Boles·
Мама троих детей
@corazon I am. She just pisses me off. She undermines all our rules and progress that we make when my SD goes to her