Ladies..... I desperately need help. My husband has three kids... Which makes me a step-mom -_- I fucking hate it. I can't stand it. I know I'm fucked up for feeling this way... But it's bad. My issues with it are eating me alive. Any other step moms out there that can relate or give advice?
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Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no, his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me and did something else with an other girl.... and it's 10:51 am now and he hasn't texted me at all. and after he dropped me off I texted him saying what I felt and nothing. I don't know if I'm over reacting or what or what should i do. do i wait until he text me?
Not having a mom right now really fucking sucks. My birth mom is a POS and I refuse to let her be a part of my life. And my step mom is in my life daily but she's such a bitch and favors her sons and their wives over me so she's basically dead to me too! So annoyed I could cry for days. Fucking hormones! 😢
Things I never thought I'd say... Until I became a mom:
I broke down at my moms house today ... because of the debt we owe and Passover is coming and it’s a very expensive holiday ... it was just way too much .... my mom i guess told my brother that I’m suffering and he called me over and asked me why i didn’t just ask for help, and offered to help when i need it . And gave me basically 4K to help for the month and if i need more to ask ... now one thing about me , is that i will suffer silently and won’t ask for help.... I’ve always been that way. Deff thankful for my family atm. I will start to do eBay too . I have stuff i can sell... anything to help out alittle help my husband ... whatever i can do.
Cambria·
Мама дочки-младенца
@blessed_mommy6 thank you
Ruby Weber·
Мама четверых детей
I'm a stepmom also and at first I didn't like it but after a while I got use to it. He needs to get a job. Hun think of this what if the tables were turned and he felt how you feel. You wouldn't like it or you would feel some time of way. It will get better.
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Make his ass get a job. You should not be the one paying out for him to see his kids.
China·
Oh and he needs to get a job so that you wont be the one taking care of his children.
China·
You cant change the situation because they were there first try changing the way you feel. You will be miserable feeling that way. Especially seeing that its people your husband love. Hopefully it will get better. This is just something that comes with dating or marrying someone with children.
Cambria·
Мама дочки-младенца
@junesmommy_15 A huge part of it is the moms... The drama.... The money which we do not have at all... And when we get money... It goes to having to go see them (we live four hours away... So it takes about 200 bucks at least to go see them... And my husband doesn't have a job... So MY whole tiny paycheck goes toward him seeing his kids that I already have issues with)....One of them is cool... The other two from a different mom annoy the living shit out of me.... And another huge part is jealousy. Not gonna lie. I want it to be me, him and our daughter. Obviously I know there is nothing I can do to change it. They are here to stay. I should be happy he loves his kids... But I literally want to throw myself out a window when I hear him on the phone with them. I know it's bad. Please don't say anything mean... I feel awful. I don't know why I feel so fucked up about this. It's just really bad... And I don't know how to change it😭
China·
What make you hate it?
c. g·
Accept it hun or leave that's all you can do , you knee this when you met him .