@ib.crazyskittles18, what are you talking about ? I sounded just like you less then a year ago. ANYONE can be strong. How are you going to tell yourself you can't be strong??
@ib.crazyskittles18 i know the feeling.. it will take time...a lot of time...try to find things that you can do alone to make yourself feel better...I just binge on movies and music to help me forget...there will always be rough days. I get scared because I feel like I start to hate the baby...
Your going to be a mom. You need to be a strong woman either this guy gives a shit or doesn't. Don't let him be the reason why your upset. Be a strong independent woman. You don't need him. I know it's easier said then done but you don't wanna have him walking in and out of your child's life. It's either he's there or he isn't. Not just once a month the whole damn time. Give it to him straight tell him your done playing games. If he leaves he leaves at least you know he's gone for good and you can start building yourself.
Just try to believe everything happens for a reason. You didn't get pregnant because life wants you to suffer. It will be hard, it will feel lonely until baby is here. It has been for me, I keep telling myself there is a reason..it will work out..but i am deathly afraid. I do have my doubts and some days I wish I could just run from it like he did...but we are not men who can just walk away, we are women who are strong. We know what it means to take responsibility and that makes us better
Well I've learned that no matter how much the guy says he wants a baby, he could end up just bailing. Even after promising to be there after you tell him aborting might be better because you can't do it alone.
@ib.crazyskittles18 @rmwalker Even women having babies in their 30's are terrified when it's their first. It's the unknown. And honestly I wasn't even happy about it at 3 months in. I can't explain the difference after holding her in my arms. I went from stressed and unsure to just pure amazement and joy. Yes being alone will suck and it's going to be hard. But nothing will ever be more worth it in your life
@ib.crazyskittles18 so am I. I was not intending to do this alone. Father just disappeared around the 6 month mark...I don't have the income or friends to even have a baby shower with. Let alone talk to. I keep telling myself that Methodist have happened for a reason and to just put my faith in God
jenna bos·
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@neko86 i am alone though
Rebecka ·
@ib.crazyskittles18 you are not alone..you will get through it..I'm going to keep you in my prayers
jenna bos·
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I cry everyday
Mikayla Nichol ·
@ib.crazyskittles18, what are you talking about ? I sounded just like you less then a year ago. ANYONE can be strong. How are you going to tell yourself you can't be strong??
Rebecka ·
I wish us abandoned mothers to be lived closer
Rebecka ·
@ib.crazyskittles18 i know the feeling.. it will take time...a lot of time...try to find things that you can do alone to make yourself feel better...I just binge on movies and music to help me forget...there will always be rough days. I get scared because I feel like I start to hate the baby...
jenna bos·
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@mikaylanichol101 not everybody is strong
Mikayla Nichol ·
@ib.crazyskittles18, why wouldn't you want to be??? Why don't you have to be a strong woman ?
jenna bos·
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@mikaylanichol101 technically I dont have to be a strong women
Mikayla Nichol ·
Your going to be a mom. You need to be a strong woman either this guy gives a shit or doesn't. Don't let him be the reason why your upset. Be a strong independent woman. You don't need him. I know it's easier said then done but you don't wanna have him walking in and out of your child's life. It's either he's there or he isn't. Not just once a month the whole damn time. Give it to him straight tell him your done playing games. If he leaves he leaves at least you know he's gone for good and you can start building yourself.
jenna bos·
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@neko86 its just so fucked cause hes the only person who can make me relax
Rebecka ·
I'm sorry I don't know what else to say..I wish I did
Rebecka ·
Just try to believe everything happens for a reason. You didn't get pregnant because life wants you to suffer. It will be hard, it will feel lonely until baby is here. It has been for me, I keep telling myself there is a reason..it will work out..but i am deathly afraid. I do have my doubts and some days I wish I could just run from it like he did...but we are not men who can just walk away, we are women who are strong. We know what it means to take responsibility and that makes us better
jenna bos·
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@restputant sure ok
Jordan Smith·
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I'm here to chat that is if you like, just message me privately so it does not go any further then the messages. Let me know.
jenna bos·
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I really don't need anyone to tell me im better without him or i need to move on i already know that
Rebecka ·
I had an ex who did that and he came around like once ever few weeks when he's off his binge
Rebecka ·
@ib.crazyskittles18 is he on drugs?
Rebecka ·
Well I've learned that no matter how much the guy says he wants a baby, he could end up just bailing. Even after promising to be there after you tell him aborting might be better because you can't do it alone.
jenna bos·
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@neko86 he comes back like once a month
rashel·
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@ib.crazyskittles18 does he want to be with you? Do yiu see him on a regular basis?
Rebecka ·
But he still wants to be around ?
jenna bos·
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@mommy1991 he hasnt told anyone im pregnant or helped pay for anything
Rebecka ·
@ib.crazyskittles18 explain more?
rashel·
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@ib.crazyskittles18 what's the deal with him? Why doesn't he want to be around?
rashel·
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@neko86 well there you go! Haha it sucks but you're literally making a human. That's incredable.
jenna bos·
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@mommy1991 i just want the one person who can make me feel better but hes also the reason im alone
Rebecka ·
@mommy1991 ..I am in my 30s...lol
Rebecka ·
I meant to say must have , not Methodist. Auto correct
rashel·
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@ib.crazyskittles18 @rmwalker Even women having babies in their 30's are terrified when it's their first. It's the unknown. And honestly I wasn't even happy about it at 3 months in. I can't explain the difference after holding her in my arms. I went from stressed and unsure to just pure amazement and joy. Yes being alone will suck and it's going to be hard. But nothing will ever be more worth it in your life
Rebecka ·
@ib.crazyskittles18 so am I. I was not intending to do this alone. Father just disappeared around the 6 month mark...I don't have the income or friends to even have a baby shower with. Let alone talk to. I keep telling myself that Methodist have happened for a reason and to just put my faith in God
jenna bos·
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@rmwalker im terrified tobe a single mom
Rebecka ·
I don't exactly have friends to talk to either...alone and pregnant as well. It sucks doesn't it
jenna bos·
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@mommy1991 nope not at all and being pregnant, having a baby
rashel·
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@ib.crazyskittles18 you don't have any friends to talk to or anything? What's worrying you the most about this whole thing?
jenna bos·
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@mommy1991 i just feel so alone
rashel·
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@ib.crazyskittles18 hi 😊 what's going on?
jenna bos·
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@mommy1991 hi
rashel·
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Yup