Do you find it acceptable for the father to " come around " AFTER the pregnancy?

I'm going through the same thing now. I would accept the father coming around anytime. My problem is him not coming around at all. In the end, if he don't want to do it, he won't do it. You can't make a man do anything he don't want to do. He only hurting the baby in this situation. I hope mines have a change of heart soon. I think it's childish and unfair to the mother. It's not about me, it's about your baby and what's best for them.

@jazmanboyd2, I understand fully. I just see some ppl accepting it and sometimes it gives the man an excuse not to tap in. Or half ass tap in. I believe if that's done to me, I wouldn't shut him out, but idk if I can trust him afterwards. A lot of them show up and try to take custody so they won't pay child support and get more money on taxes.

Idk that whole old school " well a mans gonna be a man". Is contradicting and giving them that window to just do whatever they want . Not saying I'd be so quick to accept him if he came around. It'll be harder and if I'm in the situation, I'd have to just watch my back.

@bryannajneal92, I wish mines would try to step in and take custody of anyone of my babies. I would not accept that at all. I've been there everything since they were born. I'm putting mines on child support , asap. I'm not waiting to see if he is going to do right. I didn't want to go this route but if you don't want to do it on your own, I will make sure my baby is taken care of.

@jazmanboyd2, that is what's most important. You can't stress yourself based on a grown man who can't take accountability. Idk your situation so I can't say much, but if he's not playing his part, you can only play yours.

I hate when I see women or girls online saying why other women depending on they children father to do for the child, they sound stupid. He is just as responsible for the child as the mother. I don't depend on a man because I know he is not reliable. I admire the men who do what they're suppose to do when it comes to their children.

@bryannajneal92, true. I do what I can and don't worry about the rest. I've been doing it for over 5 years so I will make it.😌

@jazmanboyd2, Haha that's another topic I post before this one!! Like I get the fact that y'all made the baby together but now you're fully depending on him. That's how things usually fall apart. The funny thing about it is they think they know every nook and cranny about life and taking care of a baby. Meanwhile being less and less independent. That's what comes with motherhood.

@jazmanboyd2, YOU GO GIRL 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 be proud of your growth! I'd hate to see single mother put too much energy on a man who won't step up until he feels like it.

@bryannajneal92, yeah. It's sad. I pray one day I meet a man that is supportive and actually has a real love for my children just as I do. Usually the step parents are the ones who step up to the plate. 😌

@jazmanboyd2, I'm starting to see that a lot