I didn't have one this time even though it pissed some people off. It's a nice thought but honestly it was an awful lot of stress last time being surrounded by people all watching me.
If you don't want one don't have one. Just spend time with your family. My mom wants me to have a baby shower but I told her I only wanted a family gathering. She's pushed for her way this entire time. I finally told her if it's not mostly how I'd like it there won't be one. Cuz I won't be there. She finally agreed to have it my way
I didn't have a baby shower, I just shared some special time with my closest family members. I put some little decorations, and my mom helped me make some food, and If they wanted to buy anything they could, but I mostly just shared some time with them.